How many of you plan 2 stay single 4ever

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Registered: 10-31-2007
How many of you plan 2 stay single 4ever
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 1:09am

How many of you plan to stay single forever?


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Registered: 08-16-2005
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 7:31am

I'm not sure what you are getting at?? The question was do I plan to stay single forever?? I said no I do not plan too but I am realistic to know that i cannot control everything in my life and that it **IS** a possibility that it could happen.


I'm not sure what you are debating me on. LOL

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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 7:34am

You replied to me.

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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 8:49am

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 11:06am

No, you didn't say they were "bad".


There is that undercurrent of "oh isn't it awful" and "aren't they kooky" type of attitudes about older single women who have cats that I want to counter.

Soliel
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Registered: 09-07-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:23pm

I honestly do not think anyone on this board, plans to stay single forever. We have plans to marry and have kids, but it doesn't always workout. I let go of my ex-fiancee, and he was not the one for me. I would only stay with him, just to have a baby. I am however very happy and inlove with myself. I am glad to not be in a bad relationship. I look forward to dating, just for the fun of it. I have taken the pressure off myself to date for marriage only. I just want to enjoy men and their company, their friendship. And hopefully it will turn into something more. I am also planning to adopt a baby or 2 by 40, if I am not married. I definitely will not miss out on motherhood, even as a single woman. I am financially blessed and will be able to support at least 2 kids on my own. but it would be better to have an involved, husband. Not just any husband. If he doesn't help out, it's like having a 3rd kid! Thats where I stand.


Hotcarmel

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Registered: 04-13-2003
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 12:15am

I get you! I'm 33 yrs. old and I have gone on many, many, many, many, many dates (You get the point) and on all these dates,

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Thu, 11-08-2007 - 8:29am
Hotcarmel,
I've also thought of adopting later if I'm not married. I always pictured that I would have kids someday...I thought I'd have them by 27 or so, but that was before I really got to know who I am and what I want to do career-wise. I think by about 35 if I still don't have kids, I will look into adoption. Even then I wonder if it's hard to get approved as a single person.

~Di


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Registered: 01-26-2005
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 8:34am

"The mind and body take time to adjust to whatever relationship status you are in. Frequently changing that status can be more stressful than long periods of singlehood."

cape, That's how I feel. I don't like dating much for that very reason. Sometimes I wonder if I am becoming selfish with that mindset.

I want to find someone and fall in love, but the pursuit tires me out. These days I'm just happily living my life, and hoping someone will show up. I don't 'plan' to stay single forever, and I really hope I'm not going to end up alone. I'd really like to have a mate/best friend, kids, grandkids in my future. When it's all said and done aside from my career, that is my idea of living a full life.

~Di


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Registered: 05-10-2005
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 9:51pm

Count me in as a person who thought she'd be married with kids by 30, and things didn't work out that way.


I don't plan to stay single forever, my preference is to have a relationship that leads to marriage.

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 4:18pm

Hmmm ... I couldn't even find an emotion to fit my thoughts on this one.


I'm 46 yrs old.

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