How polite is appropriate?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
How polite is appropriate?
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Sat, 01-21-2012 - 12:33pm

If a man asks you out and you know there's no future - like, not even enough of a future to endure a coffee date - how do you say No without being unkind?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 1:03pm

Say; "sorry I am just not feeling it".

chaika

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 1:26pm
I think not responding to those non-emails is fine. It's not like he put a lot of effort in anyway. When I would get actual well thought out emails from guys I wasn't interested in, I'd sometimes reply with the real reason, sometimes not. If he seemed like someone I'd date but he was too far or had kids or something that wasn't insulting or too personal, I'd usually respond. Those preferences were right in my profile, so he should have known them up front anyway.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 1:30pm
"We're not a good match. Good luck to you."
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 2:55pm

I think if it's a first contact on OLD it's not that necessary to respond.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 7:49pm

Ha ha!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 10:35am

Ummm... guess you uncovered my secret Marina, that I'm really a woman and xxxs is the only real guy on this board.

Mark, I mean Martha :-P

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 12:12pm

Sorry, Mark.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 12:05am

No problem.