How tall does your guy have to be?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-07-2007
How tall does your guy have to be?
58
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:56pm

Hey there,

I hope everyone on the board has had a good and productive day.

Let's just say I am a happy guy in my early to mid-20s. I am really genuine, caring and can sometimes catch people off guard with my wit. I have firends and people who care about me. To myself I see a handsome man. I keep my perception at that becuase I'm pretty unpretenteous, and I know that if society got the best of me, I would not feel that way. I'm short. I'm not sure how short, 5'4"-5'5" or maybe a bit more but who cares, that's not the point. Short is short. How tall have your boyfriends been to qualify as a decent, elgible man? I am sure I will be a very happy single man in my later years, and so I am not bitter. I don't think that helps the cause. I'm looking for some folks to lay it on straight. Is height pretty much the most important thing to consider when you are choosing a mate? To tell you the truth I have not had much luck at all even getting dates from a wide spectrum of women, let alone establishing a relationship. Pity me not, but what I would appreciate is some good advice. I'm happy to pack it in and live life as a happy singleton. Would that be best for someone in my situation? Rid the gene pool of short people? haha, j/k

Have a fun evening,

Pages

Avatar for cl_shywon
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:18pm

The shortest guy I've dated was 5'6" and I'm 5'3".

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:34pm

Hi Leaf,

I know this is a touchy subject with some because height is something that people just CAN'T change. Heavy people can lose some weight and you can color your hair if you don't like it, but your height you cannot change.

Speaking personally, I'm not all that concerned about a guy's height. I'm 5'7", so slightly above average height, but I've dated guys who were a lot taller and guys were shorter. It really makes no difference to me.

Again, personally, I'm much more concerned with a guy's personality. Is he smart, is he educated, is he kind, is he responsible?

Some women like tall guys because they like to feel "protected." To each her own. I feel like I can protect myself, thanks. In fact, I don't really like a guy to be too much bigger than me - I want to have at least a *chance* to defend myself should he decide to freak out on me. :)

My current steady is about three inches taller than me. And one of the absolute sexiest men I've EVER dated was about 5'4". He was HOT. His height sure didn't affect HIS dating life, that's for sure.

Avatar for cfk_3
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:41pm

I'm 5'7" and I've dated guys who were 5'5" and maybe even a hair shorter. I've dated I at least a handful of shorter guys.

I have a friend who just got engaged to a guy who is a good three inches shorter than her. In the very beginning, she did comment on his height, but all of his wonderful qualities kept her intrigued. They've been together for five years and will be married this fall.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 6:51pm

>>Is height pretty much the most important thing to consider when you are choosing a mate? <<

Absolutely not, but it is a factor for me. When choosing a mate, I will go for the genuine, kind, big-hearted guy first. I must be attracted to him, but attraction includes personality as well as looks.

In general, I look for guys who are at least my height (and I'm tall for a woman), but one of my past crushes was a couple of inches shorter. So - there are no hard and fast rules.

I was walking behind a couple the other day - the man was probably about your height and the woman was probably 5'9" or so.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 7:25pm

>I was walking behind a couple the other day - the man was probably about your height and the woman was probably 5'9" or so.<

My sister is about 5'11" and she's married to a guy who's about my height.

And then there's my brother who is 6'3" and married to a girl who's about 4'8".

Trying to even out the gene pool I guess. :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-07-2007
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 11:22pm
Well thank you for your answers. I read the imagine your boyfriend post, and most preferred, not just tall, but very tall men. I am very happy for people to make the choices they find desireable. Do women find handsome men who are short attractive or is the height ruin the package? Please let me remind you that I ask out a wide array of women. Most short men do not discriminate whether it be tall/short/fat/slim/unibrowed. I mean sometimes I think about possibly having a relationship with a man becuase a number of men have expressed interest in getting to know me better, romantically. I ask these questions in all honesty becuase I want a relationship, most preferably with a woman, but if height is too much of a dealbreaker I think I will try men becuase they don't seem to mind my height at all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 12:10am
Oh, we all say we like our guys tall, but I wouldn't hesitate to date a shorter guy if one came along that I really liked and/or fell for. Hell, I'm 4'11", who am I to discriminate?? haha :) Quite a few of my friends date more shorter guys than taller ones, too. You'll be fine. I think people think it's more unusual to be single for extended periods of time in your early-mid 20's than it actually is (I'm 22 and most of my friends are single and have been for a while).
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 2:53am
Hey! I just had to chime in here. I have a couple of friends who just got married and have the best relationship ever. He's probably 5'4"-5'5" and she's at least 5'10". They are so cute together, and she gets to wear flip flops all the time. Their wedding pictures were hilarious because she was kind of ducking in them. You just have to have a good sense of humor about it and not care about it! If you are with a girl who is bothered by it, then you don't need her! Also, if YOU care, there are soooooo many girls shorter than you out there! Just think, if you meet a girl you like who is 5' or less, you will be very happy that you aren't over 6'!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 5:23am

Sorry but this won't be what you want to hear - in my particular case, even though I am 5.3 myself my 'minimum height requirement' is 6ft. It's just something that I cannot change - I am not attracted to even averagely tall blokes, never have been. In my entire 36 years, I have been out with anyone shorter than 6 ft only a couple of times. My boyfriend is 6.2 and that is perfect.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 7:20am
Don't sweat yer height. For most it isn't that big of an issue. I had a step son who is only 5'4". He doesn't lack for female company.

Pages