How tall does your guy have to be?

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Registered: 06-07-2007
How tall does your guy have to be?
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:56pm

Hey there,

I hope everyone on the board has had a good and productive day.

Let's just say I am a happy guy in my early to mid-20s. I am really genuine, caring and can sometimes catch people off guard with my wit. I have firends and people who care about me. To myself I see a handsome man. I keep my perception at that becuase I'm pretty unpretenteous, and I know that if society got the best of me, I would not feel that way. I'm short. I'm not sure how short, 5'4"-5'5" or maybe a bit more but who cares, that's not the point. Short is short. How tall have your boyfriends been to qualify as a decent, elgible man? I am sure I will be a very happy single man in my later years, and so I am not bitter. I don't think that helps the cause. I'm looking for some folks to lay it on straight. Is height pretty much the most important thing to consider when you are choosing a mate? To tell you the truth I have not had much luck at all even getting dates from a wide spectrum of women, let alone establishing a relationship. Pity me not, but what I would appreciate is some good advice. I'm happy to pack it in and live life as a happy singleton. Would that be best for someone in my situation? Rid the gene pool of short people? haha, j/k

Have a fun evening,

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 9:50am
When I'm in the sun my hair naturally lightens up blonder. So in the winter I have really subtle blonde highlights in it but it just looks natural not obvious. But I did do red for a while and I loved it! I would look odd if I dyed my hair blonde, plus I would have to do my eyebrows because i have very dark eyebrows.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:48pm
Aww, thanks.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:51pm

>>NH at the end of the month...still demographic though...*sigh* they all just drool over blondes. <<

Well, I have a trip planned to New England in July. Might be just what I need.

Yes, California has too many blondes. I think being brunette there is a definite advantage. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:53pm

>>>They are indeed. The shortest man I have ever dated was my ex-h who was 5.10 - and that was way too short for me. Since then, my partners have been from 6 to 6.5 ft tall, and my bf is 6.2. None of them ever minded that I was only 5.3!<<<

Why would they mind? They're guys. Unless a guy has a million girls chasing him and he can afford to be picky, a girl's height simply isn't a concern to most guys.

5.10 was TOO short for you? That's absurd! That's 7 inches taller than you!

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:13pm
This is just my personal preference, but I'm 6ft tall,....so needless to say I'm taller than most ppl lol.
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Registered: 06-21-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:52pm
Hey! You've already gotten lots of responses to this post but I just wanted to say that I would be completely open to dating a guy your height. It probably would be just perfect. I am only 5 foot tall. Somehow I usually end up dating men that are 6 foot tall and taller. Not on purpose it just usually works out that way. If I like them I like them and height doesn't matter but sometimes especially at first the height difference intimidates me. And we look a little silly walking down the street. Plus my tall girl friends get mad at me for "wasting the resources" for the tall girls. I think I would really enjoy dating a shorter guy but I would still want him to be bigger than me... stronger, heavier. :)
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Registered: 05-30-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:57pm
Yea, yea . . .(-:
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Registered: 10-31-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:44pm

Although you've had a lot of responses already (I just made it through 58 posts!), I'll just add my two cents.

I don't think height matters as the *most* important thing. (I'm 5'8" and have dated a 5'6" to 6'11" range.) What I think is, we find the biggest "flaw" in ourselves and are absolutely certain that everyone else must focus on it, too. I mean, how could they not? We recognize it immediately. The thing we forget is that we're a package deal. Yes, you're shorter than the average, but at the same time, there's nothing you can do about genetics. You could try out some lifts in your shoes and that might help *you*, but it isn't going to make a difference to the woman you find. She's going to be attracted to all of you. You as a whole, not the height your mug shot shows. ;)

As you said, you have good looks and a sly wit. The wit means you also have intelligence. Focus on those! Those aspects, the ones that keep a relationship alive and going, are the ones that are worth your effort. The less you care (or appear to care) about your height means the less others will care until they practically forget about it.

Be who you are. You're an articulate guy who sounds like he has a lot to offer. Maximize on what you can control. To be aggravated that you didn't grow a couple of more inches is to be aggravated that the sun rises in the east -- not a darn thing you can do about it. :)

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