How things went last night

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How things went last night
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 9:34am
The nervousness finally wore off yesterday as I got really busy at work, but then hit again on the drive to the guy's house. I was calm by the time I reached his house. We were only there long enough for me to meet one of his roommates and then we left to go to dinner.

At dinner, we talked a lot (mostly about politics, but this is DC, so that's not too unusual) and had a great time. The more I got to know him, the more I liked him, but I could see no sign of any interest from him that would lead me to believe he'd want anything beyond a friendship. After dinner we went back out to his car and found that it wouldn't start. So, as we sat and waited for the tow truck, we talked more about our attitudes towards going out to bars and clubs (which we both don't particularly like doing) and then about dating. He came right out and said that he doesn't want to date anyone right now and he just wants to spend time by himself. He knows that the job he'll be starting at the end of the year will send him somewhere else in the country and he doesn't want to get a few months into a relationship, only to have to move away.

Fortunately, I don't think I had shown any interest in him before that, since I didn't see any signs that flirting would get me anywhere and I don't really think that he was trying to tell me that he wasn't interested in me. I think he really sees me as a friend and this was just something he felt like he could talk to me about.

It was a bit of a disappointment, because there was so much time leading up to this that I was kind of anticipating something more, but at least I've found someone who I think will turn out to be a really good friend.

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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:02am
Aw...oh well. You had a good night out and made a new friend. Thats still cool! And more friends means more opportunities to meet more men :)

Go.

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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:05am
And I think this one actually would go out of his way to help me meet men, as odd as that sounds. It's kind of strange, I've only known him for about 6 weeks, but I already know that I can count on him as a friend whenever I need to. It's comforting to know I now have someone else there for me.
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:12am
I'm glad you had such a good attitude about it. He sounds like a real gentleman and I do think he shared what he shared to make absolutely sure you wouldn't feel led on. I have done the same thing in reverse more than once. Dating even if it doesn't go anywhere is always great practice!! (and maybe he has some suitable friends for you?)
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:46am
Well, darn. I was rootin' for this one! Oh, well. I'm glad you have a good attitude about it. Good men usually do have good friends, so maybe he'll turn something up after all!