How were your holidays?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
How were your holidays?
Thu, 12-26-2013 - 10:37am

I just wish I had more time off.  I have to say that I really have the worst boss, condiering I have been here 17 yrs. (first part time).  On Xmas Eve, I was waiting for him to suggest going home early but I guess he thought I must have nothing to do.  Finally I just decided to leave at 4:00 and he actually said "Every day is the same to me.  I even work on weekends."  This is a guy who doesn't come to work until 2:00 pm so basically he admires himself for working about 3 hours a day!  I said "well some of us like to spend time on holidays with our families."  So my DD came home Mon. night and is leaving today--I already miss her!  Xmas Eve we went to my ex BIL's house--you know you've been divorced a long time when you can spend the holidays with your ex & his wife and not even care.  I have to laugh when she is teasing him about become more like a cranky old guy.  Then yesterday we went to my aunt's house.  The only good thing about being back at work today is being away from all the candy & desserts that are in my house.


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Registered: 12-19-2001
Thu, 12-26-2013 - 11:29am

I'm with you on both more time off and all the darn goodies!  I feel like I've gained 5 lbs in one week.  Next year I am going to try and save more vacation time to use over the Holidays.  Not easy to do with only 10 paid days off (no sick pay). I managed to stay busy enough to keep my mind off the fact that I have no love life.  Once the holiday has passed I always say to myself "being alone is not so bad". Just the big one to get through now. One year ago on New Years Eve is when MB announced that he liked me more than just as a friend.  Hard to believe it's been that long and I really do wish he would of kept his mouth shut. Oh well just another case of wanting the one you can't have.  I've been invited to a New Years Eve party but it's about a 45 minute drive near downtown Cleveland and I'm not crazy about driving that far on New Years with all the drinkers out.  The overniter was extended to me but it's a small place and I'm really not into sleeping on the floor anymore! I'll probably just stay home as always feeling a little sorry for myself and making plans for the new year.  Then it will all be over and I will give a sigh of relief! If my house wasn't so torn up with remodeling going on I would host a party myself....maybe next year.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 12-26-2013 - 11:48am


well sorry that you have to work and cant get time off around the holidays.... as for me I dont work right now (sorry) so I have to find other ways to give back so to speak...

Had a pretty good week so far in that on Christmas Eve we had some friends over and that was kind of fun and then Christmas day we stayed with my mom all day at the nursing home.. We even cheered up the residents and did pet therapy and socialized. It was quite a good day and giving back felt really good.. There is something to that and it does get one out of their own self....Stupid cliche I know.. At night did some walking and then went to visit a friend and neighbor for a bit.. Then another good deed of watching a 7 year old for about an hour and of course before bed the holiday movie on Hallmark channel LOL.

NYE my brother is having his annual party so going to go over there.. Not much missing being alone during the holidays cause there is always someone around or something to do...

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 12-26-2013 - 4:32pm

I doubt I will be doing anything exciting on NYE.  I have a lot of single friends and we have been talking about someone having a party at home, which would be my preference.  I don't want a big blowout with a lot of drinking--just the idea of getting together with some friends is good.  I would hesitate going to some dance event without a date because I wonder if that's the time where the guys who never have a date will ask someone and I wouldn't want to spend extra money and get all dressed up and then have no one to dance with.  Although last year I went with some friends to a swing dance and it ended up being fun enough--but I don't even care about getting dressed up & making the effort when I'm single.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 12-26-2013 - 11:04pm

 I found that I like being alone.  A frenemy came over unannounced with her dog and talked at me for a while.  Ignored that i was watching a game.  I'm allergic to dog dander.   The truth is I like being by myself.  I do not have patience to put up with a bunch of foolishness. 

  I do not need to be bothered by people who cannot see that their presence is not blessed. 


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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-27-2013 - 11:57am
I went home to my mom's last Saturday to avoid ice and snow. I got to spend some time with my niece, but she's just getting over being sick so she was really cranky. REALLY cranky. We had to take her to her dad's on Sunday, which was sad. He's crazy, and is married to someone who is spiteful and manipulative (they're a perfect match). She came back on Christmas, but was really late- 7:30pm. We spent time at my sister's, which was nice. We didn't get back to my mom's until 10 pm and still had to open our presents! Of course, we forgot to cover my niece's new kitchen, so that's all she wanted to do when we got there. She didn't want to open anything else. I think we all got to bed around 11:30. We also decided to redo my mom's old, ugly bathroom. Christmas Eve we stained a new vanity and painted the walls. When I left yesterday, there was still a lot of work to do. When we asked mom what she thought so far (she was at work when we started), she said, "It's okay." Sigh.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 12-28-2013 - 11:54am

Fun reading what everyone has been doing!  Now that my family is growing up and I'm growing old, our holidays are changing year to year.  My son had everyone to his house the Saturday before Christmas, because it's become impossible to have everyone together on a holiday.  Too many divorces, everyone has two sets of parents, and the kids are spoiled rotten because they have 8 grandparents instead of 4!  Everyone wants to see everyone, and it can't be done all in one day.  The great grandkids are getting a little older, so it's not complete mayhem anymore.  My son and his wife came for dinner on Christmas day!  They got me a great present which I received on Saturday.  A 7" Tablet and a wireless router.  He installed it for me on Christmas day, and now I have to learn to use it!  I don't even have a "smart phone" it's all new to me.  So far I prefer a keyboard as opposed to "typing" with one finger!  My old typing teacher must be rolling in her grave!  Now that all the talk shows are accepting "tweets" I'll have to try that next!  Who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks?  This old dog is teaching herself!

To Buckeyegold:  Downtown Cleveland?  What is there to do except for the casino.......and some bars which sound pretty raucous.  There might be something good going on at Playhouse Square.    Yes, I live in the same area.....and remember when downtown was a great place to go.......along with the Flats.  No more.  Crazy young people with guns!  Whatever you decide to do, have a good and safe time!  I'm going to be home........probably alone........fine with me. 

I hope everyone has a happy and healthy New Year!

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 12-28-2013 - 4:13pm

I got a poma poo :)  A friend of a friend found out I was thinking of getting a dog; they have two young boys and both work long hours; felt they weren't giving him the attention he needs.  They dropped him off Monday before last.  I named him Jack.  He's 9 mos old and is completely black.  He weighs 7 lbs.  His coat is a little more high maintenance than I am use to, and he's so tiny and delicate (afraid I'll break him) but he's cute as can be so he won't be going anywhere - hee, hee.  Anyway, I spent Xmas with immediate family. We pretty much spent the entire afternoon and early evening together - it seemed to have gone by very quickly but was nice.  Did you work Xmas eve?  I was actually off Xmas Eve and Xmas day but worked Thursday and Friday.  I'm learning quickly that Dr's offices rarely have any slow days.  It's always busy.  Luckily, I'm off NYE and NYD.  I won't be going out though, I don't even remember the last year I had NYE plans.  It's kinda sad in a way but mostly, I could care less.  I only hope that there are some good movies on the tele :)  I have on demand but I still can't find any good movies, ever . . . and Redboxes better movies are always out of stock.  I guess that's my new NYE tradition . . . catching a good movie on TV ;)  I've turned into quite the homebody!    

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Registered: 06-01-2008
Sat, 12-28-2013 - 6:21pm

    Your plans sound very similar to mine. In the last few years I've just enjoyed cooking a nice meal for myself on NYE and watching a movie or two. It's always a reflective holiday for me; the last thing I want to do is get drunk and deal with noise and strangers. A family member is having a party, but I think I'll just deal with the guilt of making up an excuse to get out of it. I think I've hit my family-time quota for the season. I'll be getting Don Jon (Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Scarlett Johannson) on DVD in the mail that day, so I'm looking forward to kicking back with that, a nice meal, and a couple of beers. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 12-29-2013 - 11:53am

My boss tries to close the office as little as possible--he's so afraid he will lose a dollar as if someone who comes by on the holiday will never come back--other lawyers' offices will be closed too.  Obviously he has to close on the big holidays but he doesn't close on the minor ones like MLK day, veterans day, etc.  It was actually nice to work the day after Christmas (once I dragged myself out of bed) because it was very quiet--no phones ringing, no clients coming in, so I got a lot of work done.  

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sun, 12-29-2013 - 3:55pm

Haven't checked the board in a while, but wanted to say happy holidays!   I haven't had too much time off, but I am going on a week vacation to FL at the end of January, so I am saving up.

I did have Christmas Eve and Day off, and was with my family for nonstop festivities.  Then I came back to work Thu/Fri, which were busy, and now I've had a relatively low key weekend to catchup.  Not sure what I am doing NYE.  I am very lucky to have been invited to 2 parties, and I know it sounds bratty, but I am not sure I really want to go to either.  One because of logistics (it's 40+ miles away in the city) and one that's somewhat closer, but hosted by a friend I've intentionally been drifting from.  We'll see.....

In the meantime, I've continued to hang out with some friends I made through Meetup.  There is one guy I think has potential, but have no indication yet he's interested beyond friends.  Still, I am meeting up with them in a bit to watch football, and I am more likely to meet someone out than in my apartment.  I've also met some friends that do running races, so am trying to get back into shape so I can do a few spring events.