How you guys think about it?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
How you guys think about it?
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:32pm

Some might see my previous post already. Anyway, here is the story,

I met a guy online 2004, he added me online, but we never really chatted for long. When we really started chatting was Sept 05, this year, after couple weeks chatting, we dated for the first time, he liked me, he said. But I told him I would not have sex with him for 1, 2, or even 3rd date. I have to like someone know him better first. He said He wanted to be serious with me. So he called me sometimes or we chatted online. He even told me if he didn't hear from me his heart would break!! Anyway, our last chat was 2 weeks ago, he always online late, but that day was earliest for the first time, after i denied to let him see my webcam, we talked a bit, he showed me his work, then he logged off without saying good nite. I asked him if he's mad at me when he logged off. After that I haven't heard anything from him, no calls, he didn't even online any more. I emailed him after 4 days, he replied back said he's very busy at work. I called him one time after 2 days, he didnt' answer and didn't call back. So I decide to delete him from the buddy list, and email lists. No more offline message and no more emails (even the forwarding joke emails). It's been 1 week since I did that. Today, when I log on I got his offline message, replied, he tried to finish all this works, and he's not mad at me, out of the suddent!!!

For usual, even someone who is extremely busy, at least should have one call or sth. But he's like GHOST TO ME!! And his birthday was at last weekend!!

What do you guys think about it? What should I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:34pm
Forget about him and move on!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 11:06pm

Why would you want that drama?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:29am
Let it go, completely.
It sounds like he was just keeping you in reserve in case you wanted to hook up someday... since you say that day won't ever come, you two obviously have different goals. Why waste another minute?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:34am
Yes I think all he wants is SEX......
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 8:14pm
Move on, move on, move on......
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 8:30pm
I DO
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 4:22pm

From personal experience:

ANYTIME a guy uses the excuse "work has been hectic" , "my ex-gf really hurt me - I'm not ready for a relationship," or whatever - you can fill in with whatever words you like - it means the same thing: He's not interested. If he were interested, he would make the effort EVEN if work IS hectic or his ex really was a witch. He's only interested in keeping you around as a possible hook-up.

If I only knew THEN what I know NOW...