I would seek out some, preferably wise, individuals who have been in the same predicament. Whether they be online or perhaps some friends of the couple, even acquaintances. I would seek out several of these couples, as well as single parents. I would seek out both individuals who opted not to raise the child as well as, individuals who did. If the couple had access to a therapist, I might suggest having their discussions with the therapist present. If not, I might suggest sitting down with a representative from planned parenthood or someone with a similar organization.
I have never been faced with this situation nor do I have children. However, as much as I adore children, I think at the age of 35, even though I am not where I want to be financially, I would probably find some way to make it work. Even if I was in school and was forced to pick up a part time job. Like this woman, I too long to travel the world some day but I don't know if I could personally terminate the pregnancy, knowing that it was I who took the gamble and became pregnant, for the sake of seeing the rest of the world. That's just me, at this stage in my life. I think I would have to re-prioritize my goals.
I realize that this person is not the maternal sort, so I might suggest freezing her eggs for future use if she decided that she could not follow through with this particular pregnancy. Of course, as you indicated, adoption is another option.
Hypothetically speaking, would either of these individuals have a good support system? Parents or siblings who are in a position to babysit for next to nothing?
I would seek out some, preferably wise, individuals who have been in the same predicament. Whether they be online or perhaps some friends of the couple, even acquaintances. I would seek out several of these couples, as well as single parents. I would seek out both individuals who opted not to raise the child as well as, individuals who did. If the couple had access to a therapist, I might suggest having their discussions with the therapist present. If not, I might suggest sitting down with a representative from planned parenthood or someone with a similar organization.
I have never been faced with this situation nor do I have children. However, as much as I adore children, I think at the age of 35, even though I am not where I want to be financially, I would probably find some way to make it work. Even if I was in school and was forced to pick up a part time job. Like this woman, I too long to travel the world some day but I don't know if I could personally terminate the pregnancy, knowing that it was I who took the gamble and became pregnant, for the sake of seeing the rest of the world. That's just me, at this stage in my life. I think I would have to re-prioritize my goals.
I realize that this person is not the maternal sort, so I might suggest freezing her eggs for future use if she decided that she could not follow through with this particular pregnancy. Of course, as you indicated, adoption is another option.
Hypothetically speaking, would either of these individuals have a good support system? Parents or siblings who are in a position to babysit for next to nothing?