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I always have my reasons
| Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:26pm |
I had a first date tonight- the last guy who I was in contact with online.
| Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:26pm |
I had a first date tonight- the last guy who I was in contact with online.
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Shy,
As a man I can say that what you experienced is not specifically a trait of 'older' men. I think it's a trait of the average man and average men bore me too. The average man thinks that ALL men enjoy talking about cars, sport, motorbikes, sex, how drunk they got on the weekend, how much they make...etc
One of the MOST ANNOYING traits of average men is the constant need to affirm their sexuality. They do this by pointing out attractive women (On TV, in a magazine or in real life) and saying thing like "I could do her" or "look at the t*ts on her" etc...
Let me rephrase, because the more I thought about what I posted, the more I realized that it sounded like I was saying just what you thought I was saying.
I know not all older men are as self-centered as this guy.
I go out at least once a week - does that make me immature? I don't feel like I am immature, I am just an extrememly social person.
But having nothing in common is a different story - and I don't think that has anything to do with his age. Just lifestlye stuff, or so it seems.
That's good you can see it as just a bad match rather than attributing it to his age. There might be that 34 year old (or 36 or 32, whatever) that is a good match.
"Oh, and did I mention he kept interrupting me?" No! I bet that's hard to do! :p
I can NOT stand self-centered guys. Honestly I don't even know if I can call it that - a guy would rather NOT talk then ask questions. I tend to ask a lot of questions :p but at a point I stop to see if they'll reciprocate- I can't tell you how many DON'T! That's when *I* know!
Anyway... you gave it a shot and honestly you are SO much more brave than me! Obviously why I haven't met any of these "online guys" in RL - I just don't trust that they are going to be who they say they are... or better yet... truly be SINGLE! So...
Better luck next time! :)
I think that doing some hard and heavy partying has its time and place- usually in the early twenties.
Whaddya mean "hard to do"??
I get your meaning. There is a difference between being social and partyling like a rock star. I drink about half the time that I go out but not at all like when I as in college - it's different. My social circle is unlike a lot of others, I think. I do have friends that are married and have children, etc. but I also have a large circle of friends in their thirties who are single or coupled but not married. We spend a lot of time going out to dinner and shows and bars and benefits and all of that stuff. I have dated men who were more like home-bodies and it just didn't work. I am more than willing to stay in more often with a great guy but he's got to enjoy going out with friends like I do or there will be a lot of strife.
That being said, that's different than someone in their 30s still going out to bars and boozing it up with their buddies several times a week. That does not appeal to me at all and obviously does not appeal to you.
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