I am Beginning to Realize Something
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I am Beginning to Realize Something
| Sat, 11-10-2007 - 12:29pm |
You guys may give me flaks for saying this. I really hate it when girls hit on me because they look so useless when they go out of their way to be nice to you. On the flip side, when there is a girl that I like, it is I who act uncomfortable and self-conscious. It is so hard to some one who has mutual interest. One guy told me to go out with those girls anyway. If a girl needs to kiss many frogs, a guy needs to kiss many dogs before finding the fox.
How are you Shy?

What do you mean by useless?
Yea, I missed the useless thing too. As for me, I have my first date in a long time Sunday
Mmm, when you say desperation, who are you referring to, me or her? Perhaps "uselss" is not the best word. Think of a guy who acts nice, as if to earn her approval -- may a better word is "lacking self-esteem". We see that kind of guys all the time and it is painful to watch them.
Over the summer I was working in a restaurant and a waitress there was interested in me. Once, I got her order wrong. While we both knew that I made the mistake, in the heat of the moment, I snapped back and she ended up apologizing to me .... I did not feel good about what happened, but I told the story to show how much I dislike it.
Mmm, when you say desperation, who are you referring to, me or her?
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Just was trying to understand what you meant in general terms. If I have it right you a referring to people who act out of character, and to the point of self degradation in order to kiss up. I am not sure useless is the descriptive word I would have chosen . . however I agree it is less than honest and certainly not a healthy thing . . and less than attractive in that context.
As opposed to just being nice I hope? (-: Me, I am one of those people that is nice by nature for the most part. I don't fake being different than that, I however never fake "nice". I am nice unless it is a time to not be nice. It is just who I am . . . so if I meet someone I like and I am trying to get to know them . . well I am nice. I am also attracted to people like me who are genuinely nice people. It's my thing. The world has all the "not nice" I need, so I chose nice for my "inner circle" if you know what I mean.
Anyway . . did I decipher it better this time?
It sounds like you did mean desperate, and if that's how you feel about women who approach yet you're still skiddish about approaching them, you're going to be single until you can get over that.
This is a good perspective for me to see. I'm so far from shelled and completely unafraid to approach people.
Maybe some of those women are desperate or maybe they're like me and believe in the old saying, "You've got to be a friend to have friends."
"Kissing up" may be the closet word. You know what I mean -- You can smell the difference between some one who is friendly and some one who is trying to win you over.
BTW, no offense meant with the word "dog". Dogs/Fox ... Frogs/Prince.