I am NOT getting giddy. I'm. NOT.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I am NOT getting giddy. I'm. NOT.
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Tue, 08-05-2014 - 10:37am
I met a new guy Saturday night. He asked for my number and actually used it. Two text conversations and not one mention of sex. That's rare. (Side note: A friend of mine had a first meet with a guy last week who asked her if she could lift 20 pounds, then asked if she wanted to help him in the bathroom when she said yes.) He's cute, although I'm not sure about his teeth. That's a thing that bugs me- bad teeth. He has an eight year old boy, which used to bother me, but doesn't anymore. We have quite a bit in common as far as I can tell. I'm really trying not to get my hopes up because things never seem to work out for me. But...I'm tired of things not working out for me!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 2:22pm

  Good luck!  my little poney

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 2:42pm

We'll all be cheering you on.  EWWW about your friend--I can't believe a guy would actually think that would be appealing to a woman.  I also think that when you are getting into your 30's it's harder to find guys who have no kids--at least you're a teacher so you're used to children. 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 6:37pm
Yeah- I kind of gave up on the no kids thing awhile ago. The last guy I liked doesn't have kids and wants them, but he never really followed through on anything. He just seemed to like to flirt. I wasn't brave enough to ask this guy if he wanted more kids yet, and he didn't ask me. He's only 33, so it's no like he'd be an old dad or anything.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 8:28pm

I would definitely say not to bring up your desire for children until you get to know each other a little and at least find out if you like each other.  If he sees that you teach young kids, then he'll assume at least that you like children, which is a plus for him--he certainly wouldn't want a relationship with a woman who wouldn't like a small child.  And I agree he's certainly young enough for more, esp. since he only has one.

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 8:55pm

Woo hoo - cheering for you!

The great thing about an 8 year old is that they can really be so much fun, one of the best stages I think.  (Though I don't have kids, just experience them through friends....)

Keeping my fingers crossed for more "nice" texts.

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Registered: 02-25-2013
Tue, 08-05-2014 - 10:42pm

Teeth can be fixed, although I've rejected men because of their teeth in the past. When I met my future husband, he didn't smile wide and i could tell he was hiding bad teeth. All of his good points overrode this. After years together, since my parents lived in San Diego at the time, we visite them and crossed the bornder into Mexico and got him a whole new mouth of beautiful teeth for 1/4 of the price at American dentists. Just sayin'! LOL

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 6:31pm

Where in Mexico!

dragowoman

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 9:39pm

Yes!  I was working in Phoenix last year and heard about the Mexican dentists right across the border from Yuma, in Los Almagodones.  I needed a crown and root canal, got them fo $480.  It would have been close to 2 K here WITH insurance. I was very happy with the work.  It is a nice tourist town and very safe.  They have more dentists per capita than anywhere in the world.  Many trained in the US.  They actually fight for your business and bargain with you.

Sorry to get off track here. But I agree, teeth can be fixed.  I know money can be a problem, but I have met wealthy men who neglect their teeth.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 9:50pm
I work with someone who went to Mexico to get lap band surgery. Last year, she took her husband to get it. He almost came back in a body bag. He still doesn't walk correctly or hear out of one ear. There's a reason why medical care is cheaper there.
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Registered: 09-29-2010
Thu, 08-07-2014 - 1:16am

Shywon, that's a low blow about medical care in Mexico. Many Mexican doctors are excellent practitioners, its cheaper there because wages etc are cheaper than in the U.S, not because the care is poor. Your coworker is fine isn't she? The U.S. has plenty of bad doctors and bad outcomes to surgeries--I know a man whose wife had bariatric surgery in Indianapolis and died from complications. There are a lot of risks inherent to that surgery including that the patient is sometimes not very healthy to start with. Its unfair to imply that all of the medical care in Mexico is substandard because you know of one case with a bad outcome. Okay, off my soapbox.

Hope something good develops with new guy.

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