I like being single! So why do I keep...

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Registered: 11-21-2006
I like being single! So why do I keep...
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Wed, 11-29-2006 - 1:53am

I have been in only 3 relationships since I was a junior in high school. A 2 year, another 2 year, and a four year. There was only a month (if that) in between one and the next. My LT BF & I split in Feb this year. When ever I date a guy, I pick him apart. There is always a reason why we couldnt work. I like being single! But at the same time, I am always feeling the need to try and "settle down". But I can find a guy that I can stand for more than 2 dates!!!! I recently met a single father, and hes nice, but I dont feel any chemistry with him. I dont know if this is all about unfinished business with the ex or what. Am I just too picky? Or am I right by being single for a while? I am so confused!!!

Anyone else going through this?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2005
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 4:29pm

Stay single for a bit and I wouldn't even attempt dating!

I was in three serious relationship, all back to back for 6 years!! From 18-24 I was in 'super serious' relationships. I never really got to be single and focus on me. My last relationship ended 7 months ago or so and I have to say that I like being single as well. When I do meet someone who I consider 'potential' I will also pick them apart or overanalyze them, which is completely not fair to that person.

Give yourself some time and maybe not date...if someone comes along that catches your attention and makes you feel giddy, then great, maybe see if anything happens but I wouldn't go seeking stuff right now. I think society and the media add pressure to settle down....heaven forbid you're in your mid to late 20's and not married! As much as I would like to be married I want it to be with the right person and I want to be ready...that's more important to me than anything else.

So yes, lol, there is at least one other person in a similar situation!

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Registered: 06-07-2003
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 5:57pm
Ditto. I'm 31 and I have to say I am very picky. That's because I used to not be picky at all and wasted time with guys I wasn't too sure about or agreed to take crap from other guys I was dating. Now I won't put up with either and I'd rather keep myself available for the right guy than be occupied by the wrong one. I'd rather be alone than end up in a situation where it's hard to get out of the relationship or I'm just not being treated as well as I should be. And I have to say, although I hate being single sometimes, it does feel good not to be in a bad relationship that makes me unhappy.