I broke up...
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I broke up...
| Sat, 08-18-2007 - 2:08pm |
well, after beating around the bush for a while, my boyfriend and I finally had the talk about how we see our future. And basically, he doesn't see a future for us, so I guess that's that. I've spent nearly two years on this man, and I feel quiet awfully betrayed and let down. I am glad that I can move on with my life and find a good relationship, but right now I am mostly a miserable mess. And I guess I was just hoping for a few kind words, maybe a little advice. Thank you so much.

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Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, I know you must be hurting.
You'll be ok but of course it will take time to grieve this relationship and be able to move on.
I'm sorry if I'm not remembering the details correctly, but I seem to recall that you said you'd never really talked about the possibility of a future together, is that correct? If so then I wouldn't say he betrayed you--perhaps the lesson here is more that you should have clarified things sooner. But if he did in fact say he saw a future with you and then changed his mind but didn't tell you until you pressed the issue, then yes, I can see how you would feel betrayed.
Sheri
you're right, Sheri, I should have asked for clarification much sooner! I wasn't betrayed by him, but hurt, yes. But all things work out in their time. I was upset with him for not being honest with me sooner, because I think it has been quite clear to him always that I saw a future with him. But we both needed time to really come to this conclusion, and that's how it is. He is a good person, and wants the best for me, as I do him. So I can have good memories, and hold onto the lessons I've learned. Like get clarification sooner!
It will be a roller coaster for a while, but I hope to get through this in the best possible way for me. It helps to be able to come here for encouragement and advice.
Thank you for your sympathy - it really does help.
Thank you again.
I feel for ya.
Whether or not you had a conversation about your future together, I can understand why you feel betrayed. Two years is a long time to be in a relationship with someone who decides that they don't see a future. I was with someone for 2 years before he decided he was not happy. That was a long time ago, so I'm well over it now.
I'm sorry to hear that happened. You'll feel pretty raw for a while, but you'll be okay, and things will become clearer in time.
A~
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