I Can't Believe that I'm Asking This
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I Can't Believe that I'm Asking This
| Thu, 05-18-2006 - 8:23pm |
What do I do to show a girl that I like her? For someone who does not know how to show it, this is a real question....

Is this a trick question? You ask her out, you plan a nice date, you take her out, then at the end of that date, you ask her out again, you plan another nice date, and you take her out again, etc, etc. You ask her questions, you show interest in her life, you treat her well and behave like a gentleman. It's not rocket science.
What am I missing here?
Sheri
If you're in a social setting, you start a conversation with her and ask questions about herself. If she's interested she'll probably want to keep the conversation going. If you're at work, you still try to start a converstion, but maybe just small talk to start, see what happens. Develop a friendship.
Basically, showing a woman attention and being interested in her and what she has to say, will let her know that you are interested in her. Maybe ask her out for lunch or coffee, something light, if you're somewhat shy to start with or want to gauge her interest.
That's about it for starters . . . .
I agree wholeheartedly and I agree with Sheri too.
With a little reminder that if you come on too strong and start professing eternal love too early we assume you are just another needy weirdo and dump you.
Keep it casual and light and let us get to know you and please don't feign an interest in something that you hate..EG: Bingo,opera, sewing, womens ice skating..you get the idea. If we find out you actually hate these things later, we feel tricked and lied to and that can be hazardous to the relationship.
This does not pertain to romantic comedies, we understand that you endure them for us and we appreciate that :)
I have to add one more thing.
Yeah...I would not react well to a stranger just coming up to me on the street, in a situation where we couldn't have conversation. And I would REALLY be turned off if he commented on my appearance...that's totally cheesy to me. But some women would like it, so you'd be taking a chance that she was one of those women ;-).
You need to find common ground if you're going to approach someone out of the blue, IMO. That's why it's good to meet people at activities, so you at least have that to talk about.
Besides, your original post was about *liking* someone. You can't "like" someone you've never even talked to!!!
Sheri
Yes, I know that I should try to start a conversation and find some common point, but like in the situation I just described, when we were walking past each other, starting a conversation seems more awkward. I might as well get to the point and ask for her number.... The best example I can think of was when a woman told me at an intersection, "These drivers are so rude. They don't let the pedestrians cross first."
My purpose, I guess, is to be comfortable in validating my feelings and expressing the fact that I like somebody. I understand the risk, and who knows? Maybe after a few practices I will become more creative....