I did a bad, bad thing

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I did a bad, bad thing
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 4:42am
I won't go into details....y'all can just assume whatever you want. But I have to say- I've never known what it was like to be desired by more than one man at a time until now. And the truth is, I don't want either of them! God is going to strike me down, I just know it. If I disappear from this board, you know it's because I'm a sinner and I've gone to hell.

Time to sleep. Or try to!

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Registered: 01-05-2012
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 12:34am

Everything happens for a reason, it probably was fun in the beggining and didn't realize it wasn't working until now (for both). Don't stress over it because if it was the other way around, the guys wouldn't think of it as a sin but something to do to pass the time.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 12-31-2011 - 12:01pm
I'm thinking it won't happen again. He might be a nice flirtation, but he doesn't have long term potential and I already have someone without long term potential to entertain me.

I'm starting to think I have too many eggs in my basket and I can't use any of them! They're like pretty porcelain ones that are fun to look at and play with, but not really useful.
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 12-31-2011 - 11:22am

I had a similar situation way back when I was in my twenties.

Look at it as an experience. And then from that experience ask yourself if that is how you want to be in the world and if it makes you happy.

There is nothing bad about it unless you mislead the others and/or are hurting yourself.

In my situation I just discovered it really wasn't all that fun really and didn't do it again (not saying it's bad...just saying how it made me feel).

Soliel
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 7:12pm
Woot, Woot!!
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 6:20pm
I suppose you are right. I do think they'd both be upset if they found out about each other, but oh well.

I'm not going to call DHG, at least that's the plan. It'd be nice to have him as a choice, but he seemed like he wanted me to chase, and I'm not into him enough to chase to be honest. Maybe if he hadn't said some offensive things or insisted I call him, even when I reminded him that he also has my number. But his hotness did not trump his rude remarks, so he can chase me if he wants another opportunity. If he calls me tonight, I'll have no problem reminding him of that, too. (I did speak up last night as well.)
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 4:27pm

Sometimes it's good to be a bad girl.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 4:01pm

Shy, what is this? The 1940s where nice girls don't and you have to worry about getting pregnant? Please!

First of all, you wouldn't mind getting pregnant.

Second of all, you're too smart to GET pregnant accidentally.

Third of all, a small adventure on the wild side is GOOD for a girl like you, from what I've gathered about you here.

God hasn't smote too many people lately, so I think you're pretty safe. Just don't start building up your uranium cache - that's about the only thing that incites smiting from anyone these days.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 12:35pm

Oh, Marina, I was waiting for your reply.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 12:25pm

I think a menage a trois is an experience every girl should have at least once.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:48am
Well, yes, he's definitely more fun. I think I left out the part where I went up to him first. I asked him to sing with me, and after the conversation he told me to "Go back to" my boyfriend. The only guy I'd been talking to (okay...there might have been some flirting, too) was the DJ's dad, who is about 60! When I told him I didn't have a boyfriend, it was on. And he definitely wasn't shy about it. I always worry about guys like that. But he's hot, so I figure he's used to dealing with women. Oh, and this one isn't 25 like all the other guys who hit on me.

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