I did something maybe a little crazy

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Registered: 11-28-1999
I did something maybe a little crazy
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Fri, 08-23-2013 - 11:09am

Well not really crazy, but daring for me.  So I have gone to this meetup group for singles over 50 and there is a guy R who is the organizer.  I have seen him more over the summer cause we did some outdoor concerts and some dancing in a bar, so I have seen him 4x this summer.  The last time we were together, we went to an outdoor concert & then a group went out to eat and we mentioned that we both had next week off.  He said something about renting a place near the beach and "maybe you would like to come down."  I said that would be nice, but didn't hear anything more so I wasn't sure whether he meant it.  I also told him I might be going to visit my DD.  Well as it turns out I'm not going to visit my DD, don't really have anything to do, so I just decided to email him to ask if he was still on vacation this week.  If he said yes, I was going to ask him if he wanted to go to the beach or do something.

so he writes back & says that "we" are going to rent this beach house and would I like to come down for "one, two or three days."  lol  So I wrote back that I needed details and by the way, who is "we?"  So the other definite person (who I assumed it would be) is a woman I know (and luckily like) who is also I lawyer.  That would make it more comfortable that I know someone else.  And then there are some other people who might or might not come.  I asked him about the cost and he said "I invited you as a guest" but if you want to stay the whole week or several days, we could get a bigger place, etc.,  so I actually decided I am going to go for a few days.  I figure I like both of them, he sent me the listing for the house, which looks very cute, it's right near the beach and I need some time to relax and it's only about an hour from my house and will be very cheap.  But it is kind of crazy to decide to go away with people I don't  know that well, but whatever...we're middle aged professional people, not 25 yr old partiers.

So either I am going to learn that I really like this guy as we get to know each other better...or not!  lol  And I'm not totally sure if there is a relationship between R & the woman but I am thinking not.  If they were a couple, why not just go on a romantic vacation together instead of inviting people--and him inviting a woman would make it really odd.  I do know the house has 3 BRs so I guess I'll just wait & see if they go to separate BRs then.  Of the times we have been together, I haven't seen any romantic type gestures going on--no hand holding or anything like that. 

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Registered: 02-25-2013
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 9:45am

I live in Florida now, but most of my relatives live in RI and Mass. I visit every so often and loved the times they rented adjoining beachhouses in Misquamicut where we all could stay. Miss the chowder, clamcakes, doughboys and rough surf! Enjoy your vacation.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 11:10am

Well I'm pretty sure he doesn't want a 3some.  He doesn't seem like a player at all--rather shy in fact.  So I'm not worried about that.  I surely wouldn't go if it was just him but considering at least one other woman will be there at all times that should be safe.  Other people might come too.  He definitely doesn't need the money because he said "I invited you as a guest" not expecting me to pay.  But if I am going for several days, I don't want to be the one who doesn't contribute.

I am really going to do my best to keep my expectations very low.  He must at least like me as a friend, otherwise he wouldn't have invited me--it wasn't a general invitation to everyone in the meetup group after all.  But I don't want to be disappointed if that's all it is, so I am just going with the idea that we will all get to know each other better and just have some fun in the sun.

He sent me an email this am to say that the house is good & right near the beach.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 2:36pm

Funny you say that free because the menage a trois thing crossed my mind too when I read he had also invited the other lawyer lady. It's probably all respectable though since he did invite other people to come too.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 4:57pm

yeah guys I said the threesome because I like to spice up the board a bit.. Like Marina used to do..

Plus why would it be so unusual... We really dont know anyone until we get to know them right?? ?Well its probably all on the up and up but  sometimes I think a threesome could be fun.... No just kidding.

Well the possibilities are he likes you Music and wants to get to know you or he just felt like inviting some people for fun or there is no intention at all...

Heck; Maybe you could make a move on him and see what happens.. What do you have to lose cause you might have a one in a lifetime opportunity and seize the moment...

Oh; Just to be safe bring some condoms and some wine  and dont forget to shave your legs and all... I know TMI

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 8:07pm

OMG Free, you are a hoot.  Well I am definitely shaving my legs since we are going to be at the beach.  I am definitely not bringing condoms since there is going to be no hooking up when other people are around!  I want my private life to stay private--except on this board where you guys don't know me.  lol  He did say when he found out I was definitely coming for a few days that he looked at a bigger house.  He sent me the link to see what I thought before he rented it and it has 3 bedrooms.  Now I wonder who is going to get the best bedroom with the one queen bed--the other rooms have more than one bed.  Hey I would volunteer to share a room with him to save space.

I'll just remind myself of what Shy said (that I have a car so not stuck there) and if it's not good, will invent some family emergency.  

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 10:25pm

Hey Music- 

Bring the condoms anyway. You never know. :) 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 08-25-2013 - 11:36pm
Are you sure you're just kidding free? ; ) lol
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Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 12:41am

Just b/c the rest of the people can't come, the ones that want to go shouldn't have to give it up. Usually these things are pretty straight forward, at least with a lot of these meetups anyway. 

More chance to get to know him better.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 7:33am

Ha Ha Peace  It appears these days anything goes amongst people... so it wouldnt surprise me if anyone was thinking of a threesome or just being out of the box as they say....

Its like who can we trust to just be a normal dater or be thinking oh I like her let me ask her out and see where it goes .. It just seems everyone has some sort of agenda .. This is from my experience and being an older gal I just never come across anyone shall we say normal anymore (LOL)

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 7:36am

To continue though I wasnt kidding about the shaving legs and waxing and bringing the condoms.. Heck if I was in a house with a man I was attracted to things could happen?? I want to make sure that I am covered on all bases just in case... and dont have to run out at the last minute and buy anything. KWIM

Plus it could be a great opportunity and you know seize the day..but be safe...