I did something maybe a little crazy

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Registered: 11-28-1999
I did something maybe a little crazy
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Fri, 08-23-2013 - 11:09am

Well not really crazy, but daring for me.  So I have gone to this meetup group for singles over 50 and there is a guy R who is the organizer.  I have seen him more over the summer cause we did some outdoor concerts and some dancing in a bar, so I have seen him 4x this summer.  The last time we were together, we went to an outdoor concert & then a group went out to eat and we mentioned that we both had next week off.  He said something about renting a place near the beach and "maybe you would like to come down."  I said that would be nice, but didn't hear anything more so I wasn't sure whether he meant it.  I also told him I might be going to visit my DD.  Well as it turns out I'm not going to visit my DD, don't really have anything to do, so I just decided to email him to ask if he was still on vacation this week.  If he said yes, I was going to ask him if he wanted to go to the beach or do something.

so he writes back & says that "we" are going to rent this beach house and would I like to come down for "one, two or three days."  lol  So I wrote back that I needed details and by the way, who is "we?"  So the other definite person (who I assumed it would be) is a woman I know (and luckily like) who is also I lawyer.  That would make it more comfortable that I know someone else.  And then there are some other people who might or might not come.  I asked him about the cost and he said "I invited you as a guest" but if you want to stay the whole week or several days, we could get a bigger place, etc.,  so I actually decided I am going to go for a few days.  I figure I like both of them, he sent me the listing for the house, which looks very cute, it's right near the beach and I need some time to relax and it's only about an hour from my house and will be very cheap.  But it is kind of crazy to decide to go away with people I don't  know that well, but whatever...we're middle aged professional people, not 25 yr old partiers.

So either I am going to learn that I really like this guy as we get to know each other better...or not!  lol  And I'm not totally sure if there is a relationship between R & the woman but I am thinking not.  If they were a couple, why not just go on a romantic vacation together instead of inviting people--and him inviting a woman would make it really odd.  I do know the house has 3 BRs so I guess I'll just wait & see if they go to separate BRs then.  Of the times we have been together, I haven't seen any romantic type gestures going on--no hand holding or anything like that. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 11:16am

I'm not a prude but I'm not bringing condoms.  I have certain standards.  I wouldn't want to have a fling with someone I am likely to see in the future and then would be embarrassed.  I actually want to be dating someone before having sex.  I don't want to be a ONS.  And having other people around--no.  I can see it now "Hey, Mary, would you mind taking a long walk on the beach by yourself now so we can get busy?"  lol

Oh do you remember there was some old movie with Holly Hunter in it where she worked in TV news?  She was going to a gala event at the White House with the guy she had a crush on and she stuck some condoms in her purse--then she forgot they had to have their bags inspected by security so she made up some excuse not to go in cause she didn't want the guy to see them.

Actually I have to say that I have never even used condoms in my life--of course I was married for a long time.  Hey one good thing--now at least I'm too old to have to worry about getting pregnant.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 11:52am

Just curious and had to ask if Mary is your real name? That is my real name so I had to ask. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 3:16pm

No Mary is the name of the other woman who is going.  My name is Liz (but my middle name is Mary).

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 7:11pm
Well Elizabeth Mary meet Mary Elizabeth. lol
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-27-2013 - 1:14am

  Threesomes are fun!  And all the ones I participated in were concocted by women!   Go figure!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-27-2013 - 9:03pm

To each his own, but definitely not for me.

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