i don't get it! why?

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Registered: 01-30-2007
i don't get it! why?
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 2:49pm
I just got out of a serious long term relationship the beginning of March. Since then I've had no trouble moving on etc. I talked to alot of guys during the relationship(strictly friendship but they expressed some of their feelings) and as soon as I got out of this relationship ALL of them keep asking me for sexual favors. I don't get it...they act like I'm some kind of easy whore but I've never given that impression. These guys have girlfriends (one is actually married) and I just have no idea why these guys think they can ask me such things and it's supposed to be ok. Anyone have any insight on this? I hate it, I don't want to mess around with anyone, I'm looking for a serious guy for a relationship but all I seem to attract are these guys who are shallow and looking for physical stuff. HELP!
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 3:31pm

I couldn't say for sure, but I wonder if it's because they're assuming that since you just got out of a relationship, you must be "desperate" for sex. They probably think that you want it so bad that you'll just do it with anyone.

Either that, or they were interested in you sexually while you were in your relationship, and now that it's over, they've decided it's safe for them to "pounce."

I couldn't tell ya why the guys who are married or have girlfriends are doing it, too. I think that's terrible, but unfortunately, it happens all the time.
















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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 7:34pm

It could be as simple as, you're single and they are obviously attracted to you. Maybe they think you are an extremely liberated person who enjoys an active sex life.

Why don't you ask a couple of them? Maybe they will be refreshingly honest and shed some light on the phenomenon.