I give up!

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Registered: 09-28-2005
I give up!
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:50am
I had a first date Saturday with a guy I met on Match.com. He seemed nice enough and wasn't bad looking, but he hardly said a word and I carried much of the conversation. I gave him plenty of opportunity to talk, but he just didn't. I was sitting there thinking "This guy is SO not into me because he doesn't have anything to say". Our date lasted only an hour and a half. After our date, he went home and emailed me that he was sorry he didn't talk very much, that I "surpassed his expectations and he was nervous and didn't know what to say". What? I don't know how in the world I'm gonna meet anybody with all these guys that are too scared to even talk during a date. Anyone else had a similar experience?
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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: tammarella
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 12:09pm

I've had some strange experiences going out on dates. I had this one guy from match.com, that I met up on night, and god it was weird. First off he was late, second he brought his laptop into the date, and all he talked about was him playing video games, then he left and shook my hand. Well needless to say I never contacted him again, looser. Anyways it's been a while since I've been single, and I really never went out on a lot of dates anyways, so a lot of this is new for me.

Another guy I went out with seemed pretty cool at first, we went out twice, and talked a lot on the phone, then he never returned my calls... oh well.

Saturday I went out with this one guy that seemed really cool, but a little goofy. He emailed me saying that he enjoyed it, and wanted to go out again sometime soon. Problem is with me is that I still talk to my ex every once in a while, and it's difficult to separate my feelings from my ex, and go out on dates and not trying to talk about him, or anything related to that. I tried to cut him out, but he keeps contacting me.

It's even more difficult when your ex tells you that he's been out on several dates, and it "just wasn't the same", and that he misses the good times, but he doesn't want to be in a serious RL/LTR right now....yeah umm DUH! But I wanted a SR, and after 3.5 yrs of being with him, I said to him that I don't want to be with you right now. I want to go out and date other people and see whatelse is out there, and if we are meant to be together then we will, but "you and I" need to be at the same place and the same "level" in order for me to consider it, plus we have a LOT of things to talk about if that happens. I guess cause it's all still kinda fresh since I've been single for about 2 months now.

Part of me just wants to give up and not go out on dates, but part of me says everything will happen in time. But I would say this to everyone, once you stop looking, and forget about it after a while, he will show up at your door step.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: tammarella
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 7:34pm

I've gone out with that guy!