I Guess I Missed My Chance

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Registered: 03-27-2003
I Guess I Missed My Chance
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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 1:01am

At first I was really happy to see her at the gym again. I tried to talk to her several times, but it did not feel like she was interested anymore.... Plus, something -- her friend or an out-of-control volleyball -- always interrupted us. Since she did not look at me like she did a few weeks ago, and since many times she stayed with her friends rather than alone, I got discouraged. And I know you guys will want to hit me over the head for this: Once I actually had a chance to ask her out and could not do it. She was alone looking at the scorecards and I just stood there looking at her....

At the end, out of desperation, I guess, I approached her and the friends and asked if they will play again next week. One of the guys was friendly enough to talk to me, but I knew that she was avoiding me. I guess she either lost interest or was never that crazy about me. Should I ask one of her friends, to whom I made a good impression, if she has a boyfriend or if she is dating someone? I do not know if I am just trying to find some closure or if I am still hoping....

At first when I met her, I was so hopeful that something wonderful would happen, but at the end it was a big disappointment. Damn it, I just want to fall in love with someone. Why is it so hard?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 11:29am

I think you were picking up on her signals. Don't be so hard on yourself.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 2:46pm
Next time I will cut the chit-chat and ask her. Perhaps I am just holding a vain hope and setting myself up for a rejection, but it is a closure. At least I will not wondering what could have happened....
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 8:35am
She might be clueless about how you feel.
I think you need to break down and cut the chit chat.
Atleast you'd get it out of your system and you won't be wondering what could have been.
Honestly if she rejects you, I think you'd get over that faster than you would if you never did anything.