I hate being single
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| Sun, 06-17-2007 - 9:23pm |
I love going places and doing things but I don't like going by myself so I found someone (rather, he found me) who likes to go places and do things like I do. But he is in love with me and i am not in love with him. Should I stop seeing him? My friend(?) thinks I am leading him on and even tho I told him I am not in love with him, she says he is hoping it happens. He still wants to hang out with me. She made me feel like I shouldn't see him anymore. I would really miss him and I would really be lonely. I know that he would miss me too. I have no friends or family to do things with. My friends are all in relationships and my family all live in different states. I have a lot in common with him and we laugh a lot together. I show him affection but I just can't seem to bring myself to say "I love you" to him. Maybe some day I will fall in love with him but right now I can't promise anyone that.
Am I a terrible person??

1) Is he a big boy? I know, funny question, but he is risking getting hurt, and the more time, the more it hurts. Is he strong, and clear headed enough to make that kind of choice, with your honesty, and his eyes open to the risk?
2) Why don’t you love him? Might���s and maybes, or denial (you know deep down it is never going to happen)? If so it is selfish to use him, flip the coin . . is that the place you would want to occupy in a mans heart? A convenience?
Look, if his eyes are wide open, it is his choice to stay. But don’t even offer a maybe if you don’t believe it. Tell him you see him only as a friend, no carrots on a stick, if you will. Does that make sense? Then if he stays . . the question then becomes do you allow it knowing the outcome? (-: Plant your feet hard enough and he might even except his role as a friend . . you’ll know the day you meet another guy.
If its me . . I probably protect some one I like . . . if I know she would never accept a friendship, and I will never go the distance with her . . I save her the pain and let it go now. I don’t like to hurt people who are undeserving of it. You are the one who looks in his eyes . . you have to decide. (-:
Have you made it really clear to him that you don't feel that way about him?
AJ, enjoying life with C.
So is he your boyfriend?