I hate this day!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I hate this day!
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Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:15am

So much pressure to have plans. If you do have plans, there's pressure to make them spectacular.  I've been home and in bed by 11 (to avoid knowing it's midnight, except fireworks always wake me up) for the past four years. I'm sure tonight will be the same. 

Please help keep me from being depressed today!  Who else is home alone with no one to kiss at midnight? 

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:43pm

shywon wrote:
The girlfriend I spend the most time with has posted twice on Facebook about grow she's having fun with friends tonight. Guess I didn't make the cut.

And people wonder why I despise Facebook and similar sites.  I'd rather my being excluded from something not be so publicly rubbed in my face.  On the upside you can focus 2013 on finding new gal pals that won't be so rude. 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 11:15am
I honestly wouldn't have any life if she weren't a friend, so I can't just dump her. However, if she asks why I didn't respond to her text at midnight, I will tell her that it was because I was in bed, trying to sleep, and I didn't like being reminded of all the fun other people were having without me. I think she was at a neighbor's house that I don't know, but that doesn't excuse her from rubbing it in my face. She's that kind of person, though. Not because she's malicious, but because she really is clueless about how her actions affect other people. She's one of those people who tags herself everywhere- even at the doctor's office or Starbucks- simply because she thinks people care. I'm baffled as to why my iPad keeps autocorrecting things like message to mother! Then it won't let me go back to fix it. Grrr.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:27pm

Me too.  lol  I got divorced 4 yrs ago & nothing since then--not even making out.  That's really pathetic.

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:29pm
I'm not saying you should just dump her, but I do think you should try to find some new friends. I understand why you keep her as a friend even though much of the time she drives you crazy, I certainly have plenty of people like that in my life. I do however think it is good for all of us to have good friends who treat us much better. I'll certainly be at it again trying to make new friends this year and hopefully they all won't wind up getting married or otherwise coupled and putting out their no singles allowed signs. Exhausting, but what else would I do.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:31pm
Music- you need to find yourself some hot young ridiculous thing to make out with, just to say you did! It won't hurt anything, and maybe it'll awaken something you forgot you had!
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:32pm

Sorry in advance if this is duplicated.  This is my second attempt.  And, I'm not even on a mobile device.

Shy, have you tried going into settings and turning the autocorrect off on your ipad?  I'm sure you probably have just thought I'd toss that out there for good measure.

I actually made it past midnight last night.  I was rather impressed with myself.  I watched a 1999 horror-ish Japanese flick called Audition.  It was pretty good(if you like gore).

I'm baffled by the fact that FB is still relevant.  After it's lackluster stock market debut, I thought surely it was the beginning of the end.  I was thumbing through my mother's news feed on Xmas day as she has an account and has the app on her ipad.  It seemed as though it were the same people posting variations of the same things over and over again.  If it wasn't random pictures, someone was on there prohphesying about something - mostly religious fodder.  I kept thinking, aren't these people sick of each other yet?   

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:36pm

I agree w/ Ladybookworm on this one--make it a plan this year to try to make a couple of new friends--break out of the rut.  I don't know how small of a town you live in but are there any meetup groups in your area?  They don't have to be singles groups per se but maybe there are groups for people over 30, or single women or something like that.  It's hard at first to be the new person in a group but if you persist in going to the same places then eventually you won't be the new person & you will make friends.  I think the 30's are a difficult time because most people are married by then--when you're older like me, there are more singles cause people are getting divorced or even widowed.  So you have to seek them out.  The big added benefit of joining my dance class is finding a bunch of single women who like to go out--they aren't all my age, they go from early 40's to 70, but we still have fun together.  If not for them, I wouldn't be going out on weekends because before that I basically had 2 single friends--my best friend lives an hour away so it's not that easy to get together with her all the time and because of the distance we tend to do something in the daytime like lunch & shopping, which isn't exactly a great way to meet men, and then my ex SIL is my age but acts like an old lady--she has been working on Saturdays and doesn't want to go out on Sat. night even though she has the next day off--hey I work on Fridays & I still can go out on Friday nights.  So I don't call her that much unless I just want to have a brunch or something.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 1:55pm
I could turn it off, but the funky correcting only really happens here. It doesn't seem to happen on my phone, either. It's weird. My iPad is fairly new, so maybe it just hasn't "learned" me yet. It's the not letting me go back that annoys me...which it is letting me do right now. I'm guessing it's another ivillage gremlin. I've actually removed quite a few people from my news feed because all they post are shared sappy quotes that I don't care about and take up my whole screen. I mostly use it to keep up on family and share pictures with my family. I am really good at removing those people I don't care to hear from, though. Either your mom likes that stuff or she doesn't know how to get rid of it!
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Tue, 01-01-2013 - 4:51pm

I wanted to comment on the making friends issue. When I was a lot younger, I looked at friendships as "forever." I was always distressed and disappointed when a close friendship drifted away or changed. My feeling was, "How can I ever make new friends?" As I've gotten older, I see that making new friends is something you have to do throughout life. Very few people make a set of friends in high school and then keep those friends for decades. I'm not saying it's always easy, but it can be done. Hey, if an introvert like me can make new friends, anyone can. I made a couple of friends though a meetup I started. I also made a friend through a professional luncheon I went to (I just happened to sit next to her). I met another friend at a wine tasting. 

And I really would rather be alone than with an annoying friend. But that's just me.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 8:22pm

Do you know where I could find this guy who wants to do that?  lol  I haven't forgotten what I had at all--and I still know how to do it.  I have to laugh cause last night one of the friends I was with (I don't know how old she is but I'd guess around 50--she has 4 kids over 20) was talking about one of the younger guys in our dance group--he's about 35 and he has some kind of a crush on her.  When we had a little Christmas party, he was the last to leave and she really wanted to get him to leave.  She said "I don't know why he's interested in me--I'm old enough to be his mother" Well I have heard him say that he likes older women & she's very cute still.  But the only younger guy who has a crush on me is one of my clients who's 20 yrs younger than me and has many, many issues, so I don't think that would be a good idea.  He wanted to be my friend on FB and I was like "are you kidding me?"  But he did email me something funny like "I haven't forgotten about us."