I hate this day!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
I hate this day!
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:15am

So much pressure to have plans. If you do have plans, there's pressure to make them spectacular.  I've been home and in bed by 11 (to avoid knowing it's midnight, except fireworks always wake me up) for the past four years. I'm sure tonight will be the same. 

Please help keep me from being depressed today!  Who else is home alone with no one to kiss at midnight? 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 3:00pm

My goal is to keep myself occupied.  I went to the fabric store this morning, plus I have curtains I'm making for my sister that I need to work on.  My house needs cleaned, and I need to exercise (baaaadly).  I'm not really a fan of movies, so sitting and watching one won't help me much.  I need to stay occupied, not laying on the couch being depressed. 

It's snowing here, but not too badly.  It's supposed to freeze over later.  Maybe it's better that I'm not out.  I'll keep telling myself that.  Thanks for the comraderie.  It's what I need right now. 


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2005
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 2:12pm

I think NYE is the worst holiday, even worse than Valentine's Day.  I feel your pain, and certainly have no one to kiss at midnight!

I am lucky that I have a house party to attend, so I can get out of the house.  I hate driving on NYE, but will leave right after midnight, before the bars close, so that it's as safe as possible. 

After being away for Christmas and staying with family, it feels extra lonely being back home alone now.  I've watched plenty of shows on Hulu just to keep myself distracted at night.  I think in times like these, distraction from the event is the best bet.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 1:31pm

  Buck up!  I have been home alone for New Year's most years.  Being out with drunks and cops is not my idea of fun.  Plus there are good games on!  Clemson vs LSU should be very good!  There are great Asian dramas on Here is a romantic with swordplay (and a famous folk tale) 

Watch Princess Ja Myung Go online

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    Remember if your mind and heart are down and self conscious you may miss a grand opportunity.  Think that the new year will bring new experiences.  

    Of course you could go out by yourself.  With moxie and hutzpah as you are queen of time. Boldness and bravery!   This is a Sadie Thompson day.  


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:51pm

Oh; Dear. My whole post vanished and going to try again but this time the short version hopefully (lol)

White Satin;; Yes I am greatful for the invite to my brothers.. You may come .. We live on Long Island.. and anyone else who wants to come .. let me know..

It is sad though that your brother didnt think of you.. That is very uncaring and all and hope you and he can  mend the fences. My brother and i just started talking again this year after a year of not talking. (long story)... I would invite myself if I were you. Maybe they dont know you are home alone.. and have no plans.. Do you have plans?? sometimes people are so forgetful or just dont think about how others feel or where they are or are alone..

Take Care

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:47pm

omg.. did my whole post vanish... geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:24pm


At least your brother thinks about you. I know my brother will be spending it with his wife and her family. It feels as if our already little family broke up after he got married. I'm always the one who has to inititate any get-together anymore. But I must because 1) I can't expect his wife's family to have to sensitivity and courtesy to include his only family (me) in these gatherings. 2) I see the benefit of maintaining contact, namely, to maintain a R/S with my brother and my little nephew.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:09pm


Yep; I know how you feel shy .... but this year I got invited to my brothers for a house party.. I really am not crazy about going but its either that or sitting at home with my sister and her boyfriend and that is more awkard..

Anyway; I was thinking if I didnt have somewhere to go I would go out alone or just stay in my room and watch tv...NYE is so hyped up anyway and the time passes so fast so who really cares..

I am sure if you brainstormed enough you could find something to do or someone.. What about that Karoke bar you go to??

It does stink when people diss us on holidays and special occasions and we are single and alone.. I know my brother;s party will have all couples and once again I am without anyone but these are tough choices and it will go by fast and then its over.

Thanks Be To God

I hope you find some peace and relief in this.. This too shall pass.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:08pm

I'm trying to decide which is worse:  constantly reminding oneself that it's NYE and the dread that comes with the thought of being alone or being so accustomed to that scenario that one barely recognizes it as a national holiday ;)

I'm making some Thai chicken soup with lemon grass, coconut milk and red curry later.  I actually forgot the lemon grass and am wondering if I'll have trouble locating it.  I've never made this before so I'm not sure.  I'm also thinking about adding some potato to the mix.  Oh, darn, I just realzed that I also forgot the ginger . . . I hope the grocery store isn't too crowded.

I am doing the Netflix free trial thing and I have to say, I'm loving it so yeah, it will be me, a bowl of soup and probably a documentary of some sort.  I'll probably be in bed before midnight (and am not the least bit ashamed - but I remember a time when I'd have been mortified by the thought of that so I get it). 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:02pm

You're not alone in feeling the preasure. Why? To have an excuse for a party and to sell stuff. The default and natural state of things is do nothing. You can treat like any other night but w a little self pamper. If the library is still open maybe get something fun to read along with your nice meal, or get a comedy to watch.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:47am
At least you've been invited somewhere. All but one of my friends are married and they completely forget about me this time of year. Try to have fun. Who knows. You may actually like her.