I hate this day!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
I hate this day!
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Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:15am

So much pressure to have plans. If you do have plans, there's pressure to make them spectacular.  I've been home and in bed by 11 (to avoid knowing it's midnight, except fireworks always wake me up) for the past four years. I'm sure tonight will be the same. 

Please help keep me from being depressed today!  Who else is home alone with no one to kiss at midnight? 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:28am

Shywon,

YOu need to make a nice meal that you like, get warm and toasty. Do you have a ready gf to call?  So get you nice meal ready with some champagn and a gf on the phone! That sounds like fun to me.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:37am
I got food yesterday to cook today, but drinking alone just isn't my thing. I get chatty when I drink, and the walls don't respond. I don't really have anyone I'd want to call. I'd rather everyone not know I'm home alone tonight.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:38am

I'm hating this day as well. I have a gathering that I feel pretty obligated to attend that I think is also going to involve a set- up attempt. Since I'll have to drive home, I won't be able to drink enough to relax and get through it. To be honest, I'd much rather stay home and watch movies, but I can't think of an excuse to get out of it that won't sound like a complete lie. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:41am

I'm hating this day as well. I have a gathering that I feel pretty obligated to attend that I think is also going to involve a set- up attempt. Since I'll have to drive home, I won't be able to drink enough to relax and get through it. To be honest, I'd much rather stay home and watch movies, but I can't think of an excuse to get out of it that won't sound like a complete lie. 

EDIT: Sorry for the double reply. I accidentally submitted twice. 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:47am
At least you've been invited somewhere. All but one of my friends are married and they completely forget about me this time of year. Try to have fun. Who knows. You may actually like her.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:02pm

You're not alone in feeling the preasure. Why? To have an excuse for a party and to sell stuff. The default and natural state of things is do nothing. You can treat like any other night but w a little self pamper. If the library is still open maybe get something fun to read along with your nice meal, or get a comedy to watch.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:08pm

I'm trying to decide which is worse:  constantly reminding oneself that it's NYE and the dread that comes with the thought of being alone or being so accustomed to that scenario that one barely recognizes it as a national holiday ;)

I'm making some Thai chicken soup with lemon grass, coconut milk and red curry later.  I actually forgot the lemon grass and am wondering if I'll have trouble locating it.  I've never made this before so I'm not sure.  I'm also thinking about adding some potato to the mix.  Oh, darn, I just realzed that I also forgot the ginger . . . I hope the grocery store isn't too crowded.

I am doing the Netflix free trial thing and I have to say, I'm loving it so yeah, it will be me, a bowl of soup and probably a documentary of some sort.  I'll probably be in bed before midnight (and am not the least bit ashamed - but I remember a time when I'd have been mortified by the thought of that so I get it). 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:09pm

Hi;

Yep; I know how you feel shy .... but this year I got invited to my brothers for a house party.. I really am not crazy about going but its either that or sitting at home with my sister and her boyfriend and that is more awkard..

Anyway; I was thinking if I didnt have somewhere to go I would go out alone or just stay in my room and watch tv...NYE is so hyped up anyway and the time passes so fast so who really cares..

I am sure if you brainstormed enough you could find something to do or someone.. What about that Karoke bar you go to??

It does stink when people diss us on holidays and special occasions and we are single and alone.. I know my brother;s party will have all couples and once again I am without anyone but these are tough choices and it will go by fast and then its over.

Thanks Be To God

I hope you find some peace and relief in this.. This too shall pass.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:24pm

FreeAtLast,

At least your brother thinks about you. I know my brother will be spending it with his wife and her family. It feels as if our already little family broke up after he got married. I'm always the one who has to inititate any get-together anymore. But I must because 1) I can't expect his wife's family to have to sensitivity and courtesy to include his only family (me) in these gatherings. 2) I see the benefit of maintaining contact, namely, to maintain a R/S with my brother and my little nephew.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:47pm

omg.. did my whole post vanish... geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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