i hate it!!

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Registered: 01-30-2007
i hate it!!
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 8:24pm
OK so I'm really hating the single life. Yes, I know I'm only 20 I have a long time to date etc. but I can't help being completely miserable. I need to be in a relationship, I need everything that comes with a HEALTHY relationship. I feel completely pathetic but I hate the way this feels. I've been single for the past 2 months and although I'm happy to be out of my previous relationship I'm ready to be in another. Any advice on how to control this or something? Maybe I'm completely crazy and need to stop ranting and raving.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: xdancinx
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 9:41pm

I am turning 20 very soon and I've been technically single since June of 2005 when I broke up with my ex of 3 1/2 years. Since him I have had my first one night stand (Aug 06), and also ended up in this horrible love triangle which has been going on since Nov 06 and just ended yesterday (his girlfriend is pregnant, it's definitely over this time).

But I know what you mean. I too hate being alone. It's not so much that I need a relationship, but I really really want someone in my life to at least date. I learned after with my ex of 3 1/2 years to not jump into a relationship. Really, all I miss is having someone around to kiss and cuddle with... that's it. That's all I wish I could have right now and I would be happy.

Something you gotta watch out for, is getting too desperate. I think I had got to that point when I started seeing this most recent guy (btw, 10 years older, smoker which I can't stand, AND had a girlfriend)............. I was to the point that I literally threw all my morals out the window, because I looked at it like what do I have to lose?? So I decided I would try something different... and it was surely different alright!

So just hope you don't get to the point that I did.




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In reply to: xdancinx
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 9:43pm

In your defense, I have to say, it's worse when you're younger. Something about all those emotions that settle down a bit, after young adulthood.

It still sucks being single.

I've been single for 14 months (and celibate for longer). At first, I was so glad to be single. I'd just gotten out of a cumbersome relationship, and I needed a lot of time to recover. I became a better person on my own. At this time on this day, a year ago, I could've told you that I 100% preferred being single. But now I'm just bored and feeling unfulfilled in some way. I don't know what it is that I want out of relationship (although I definitely want a relationship; booty calls are lame). I just know that I need it.

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In reply to: xdancinx
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 11:37pm
Thanks guys! I really appreciate both your perspectives and thoughts. I just wish there was a way of getting around this right now. I totally can relate to both situations--I feel the exact same way. I guess I'm not the only one who has experienced that desperation (take whoever pays attention to me first) and that horrible feeling of being alone and hopeless. Again, any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated:)