I hate this part!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I hate this part!
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Sat, 04-19-2014 - 4:40pm
The uncertainty. The waiting. The not knowing. Can I just skip it?? I know he likes me. We hung out last Saturday, then Thursday night. He asked to see me again twice. He texted today just to say hi and told me he was fixing his dad's toilet. Why do I find that attractive?? But I really hate this part, where you don't know what he's thinking, what he wants (and it's too soon to ask). Since we've known each other for years, it's not awkward, but I soooo have a bad habit of running guys off!
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Sun, 04-20-2014 - 9:44am

It's difficult finding that balance of showing enough interest but not too much which, is quite challenging when you really like them!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 04-20-2014 - 6:46pm
Yep. I keep telling myself...it's new...I shouldn't hear from him all the time. Plus, the last two guys I was involved with were constant texters and it drove me crazy. He said he'd call. I should be able to believe he'll call, right? But stupid guys who pretended to be interested have ruined my faith in men to actually BE interested.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 04-25-2014 - 9:34pm
I finally heard from him yesterday. I'm confused! He said he really likes me. His dad said he talked about me nonstop. But he waits a week to talk to me!?! He did say we need to see each other soon, so I know he still wants to see me. He would've come out last night, but he had to be up early this morning. I'm gonna be patient with this one bc we've known each other a long time, but I'm not holding my breath.
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Registered: 05-09-2012
Sat, 04-26-2014 - 3:16pm

You can't make this guy do something if he doesn't want to.  If he's interested he'll be back.  Maybe you will get some contrary advice but I think that's pretty much where you are.  If you can agree with that, what would you think about trying to find another guy to spend your time with.  If your guy friend comes sniffing around again, what have you lost?  If he doesn't what will you have gained?  If nothing else you will be doing something positive with all of the energy you are holding in because of your anxiety and that just may make you feel better.  Good luck to you!  Craig.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 04-26-2014 - 6:13pm
I don't really have anxiety over it. I'm pretty used to guys just disappearing on me. Like I said, I'm not holding my breath. If someone else comes along that I like, I'm not gonna turn him down.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 04-26-2014 - 6:31pm

  We humans all go through this uncertainity.  We like some one do they like us, as we like them?  What do they want free dinner?   A movie?  Are they using me to get back or forget or do they like me at all.  It is all uncertain.

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Registered: 05-02-2014
Fri, 05-02-2014 - 4:24pm
shywon: so what happened? did he call? I understand your story. But I have found whether I wait or not, the guy always disappears. sometimes i try to push harder than just playing it cool - never seems to make a difference! But I also dont want someone who texts every 5 mins. Then again when I first started dating there were no cell phones! Or even emails. Now it seems there is no real excuse NOT to text.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 05-03-2014 - 9:26am
I saw him again last night. I can't quite figure him out. I know he likes me. No question about that. I think maybe he's more passive than I thought. I tend to be pretty take-charge with most things, so I attract guys who like that. I don't necessarily want to be that way with a guy, but I'm wondering if I should try it and see if that's what I've been missing all along. Maybe these guys think I'm all into control, and when they find out I'm not, they lose interest.