I have a date...

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I have a date...
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Sun, 04-29-2012 - 1:24pm

I'm trying to think of it as two friends getting together so as not to get too anxious.  I have not a thing to wear.  Which means a trip to the nearest strip mall is in my imminent future.  This guy is way out of my league.  I'm not being self deprecating, I'm just being honest.  He has all of his sh*t together...I am such a work in progress...and I think he's a good five years younger, perhaps more...and he's ridiculously handsome.  What he sees in me, I have no idea.  It's just a new friend.  It's just a new friend.  It's just a new friend :smileyhappy: 

To say I'm nervous is an understatement.  Luckily, we're doing something outdoorsy so that should help...I am so rusty at this...I haven't dated since 2005.  Wish me luck!

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Sun, 04-29-2012 - 2:42pm
Thanks, that's exactly the advice my best friend gave me...almost word for word. I am about to text him and ask him to call me, and explain that I've had a change of heart, and want to do something else...everyone is in agreement that I should def not go to a secluded park for a first date with a relative stranger...
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 04-29-2012 - 2:29pm
The red nail polish thing is odd, and I'd probably call him out on it. Like, "Do you have some weird red nail polish fetish? Because its not really my style." I'd let him know that wasn't happening. Plus, it stains!

As for him asking if you'd be alone, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he was trying to gauge the level of "date" you were having. Like, was he meeting you and some friends because you already had plans and you wanted him to join, or were you asking him so you could spend some more time with just him. I'd still be sure you're in a public area, but I don't think it's creepy that he asked.
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Sun, 04-29-2012 - 2:15pm

SHY or XXX - please give me your opinion on this:  Okay, we met at a Salsa club last night.  I had already had a margarita, but wasn't at all tipsy and he didn't appear to be either.  He said he has two masters degrees, and is a middle school teacher.  He's from the south, he's BIG...like 6', and pretty built.  All interaction has been absolutely normal, both last night and this afternoon.  The only thing is, he's only texting me.  AND after I suggested meeting a park, he asked if we would be alone.  This park is large and there are never more than a handful or two of people there.  I suggested grilling and having dinner there.  After I gave him the address, and we picked a time, he texted me (about 40 mins ago):  "I have a favor to ask...I really like red nail polish on a lady."

???  I've talked to three people, two say meet him somewhere else and one said to cancel the date.  Thoughts???  (sorry free, just saw your post - would like your opinion also)

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Sun, 04-29-2012 - 2:05pm

Yeah;; way to go..!!

I would def. get a new outfit.. It is so much fun buying a new outfit for a date.

Have Fun !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 04-29-2012 - 1:48pm
Good luck! How did you meet him?
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 04-29-2012 - 1:44pm

Yay!!  cheer.gif

Way to go!!!

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