I have the worse luck!

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Registered: 05-18-2006
I have the worse luck!
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 2:41am
I am 19 and having the best time of my life. I am a sophomore in college, I have a great support system of family and friends who keep me on my toes. Recently, I started the dating game, and I have the worse luck! I am really busy with college and I recently got the resident assistant position at my campus which keeps me terribly busy also. What free time I have left after college, family, RA, friends, and sleeping I leave for a personal life. I do want a relationship but it is the furthest thing from my mind right now, I don't mind just dating at all! This leaves me being the 'single friend' who is often hooked up on horror story blind dates. I embrace being single, after seeing all my friends in relationships stress out over a phone call, a good looking coworker, or a night out with the guys. I want that but I don't you know? All the guys I have dated said they don't want a relationship, but they dump me later, only for me to find out they are in a relationship 3 weeks later. Which then leaves me thinking its something I did wrong and severly pissed off. I am a very social, busy, drive, ambitious, and confident woman, and sometimes that can be intimidating. Some of my male friends informed me of this but that is my problem every guy I meet and start to be attracted to turns out to be my friend! I am also guilty of bringing up one of my guy friends in a conversation on a date ( a big no-no but I can't stop). I am also a terrible flirt, I never speak up and ask for numbers. I just need help or tips on how to meet people! Is there something I am doing wrong? Looks aren't everything but I like to think I have a killer personality and I am pretty good looking. SOS Please someone help me!
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 12:49pm

You seem to have a very good head on your shoulders. I think guys this age want the fun, goofy girls; not girls like yourself. I'm sure you're quite fun but, well, you can read between the lines here.

Just keep being yourself. These silly college boys will catch up with you in time.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 1:23pm

You aren't doing anything wrong - you're just dating college guys. They can be flaky and many don't want a serious relationship yet. Don't take it to mean that you are not great relationship material just because of a few flaky guys. :)

You sound like you have a very well-rounded life, lots of friends, lots going on. Enjoy your college years - it really is such a great time in life, whether or not you have a boyfriend.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 05-05-2007
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 1:27pm
Were you offline over the weekend ? Everybody was missing you. Or did you head into the mountains ?