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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-07-2007
I hope that you all find what you are looking for ...
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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 7:41am

So disappointed in this board.  I hope that the entire iVillage community has not disintegrated into people that can't tolerate different lifestyles and personalitites because let me tell you, I AM DIFFERENT TOO.  I am a 54 year old woman that due to good genes (you should see my mom) is still hot enough that my kids friends want to date me (my kids HATE THAT). I ride a BIG motorcycle, lifts weights 3 times a week, do a lot of guy things, kayak and write professionally (although not a lot of success at that yet) and that isn't even touching the differences.  How long till you are saying what I write is untrue (although I came here for help, not an untrue word would I write on this board).

Shywon, you need to grab some of these posters and shake them to wake them up. Look at you, here you are (I am talking about certain women on here) on a SINGLES board complaining that you can't find a decent man that wants to be with you and you are acting like cruel little high school girls picking on someone that as far as I can, NEVER did you any harm just because she is different.

So I am going to explore some of the other boards and see if I can find someone out there that is willing to accept you for who you are. Not decide just because her life is much more interesting than yours that she is lying.  Good luck and I hope some of you do wake up and smell the coffee.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Tami;; I have no idea what to say to you but let me try and say something.. You are right in some ways and I am so sad that Marina has left. I only know people from what they write on the board. I have no idea who they are or what they are or how their lives are. It is very hard to judge people withouth knowing or meeting them and making good assumptions.. I am from New York and live there and am a very open and honest and candid and straight shooter type of person. I dont sugar coat anything for the most part but I am not cruel or mean or anything but to be honest there are times that I question some posters.. I mean i am very cynical and jaded lately because of what I have been through in my life. It doesnt make me bad or whatever but it is what it is and me being 58 years old I feel I have paid enough dues to be my authentic self...

You are very fortunate in that you have a good life and still look good and can get men and look young and do different things. My hats are off to you there and most likely you will find a man soon and wont even need this board .. Unfortunately some of us need to stay around here for many different reasons.. I usually enjoy the posters most of the time and take it all with a grain of salt. I mean for goodness sakes I have had two marriages and had relationships and BTDT and I never thought in a milion years I would be writing at  my age on a  singles board on ivillage.. but something led me here and so far I am enjoying the negative as well as the positive.. Everything cant always be black and white or hunky dorey or sugar coated.. Such is life but you probably know that already.

I do write on other boards and if you can find another board that you feel safe and sound with then its your choice and your priviledge. Its a free country and we have free will and can make the best choices for ourselves.. Maybe if you stuck around though you would feel differently about the singles board.. Hey; what have you got to lose??Alot of times we all agree to disagree but that is fine. We are all entitled to our opinions and differences..

Once again I have no idea where Marina is or if she would ever read this stuff again but I myself and just me is going to apologize because I dont want ill feelings transpired to someone I have never met and its probably not right to judge yet being hypocritical I still have to question the stories and how outrageous they were although at some point we probably all enjoyed them or we are just jealous and yes act like High Schoolers or whatever. I do find at times women to be very caddy but then again we have some men on here who I believe in my heart of hearts have said some mean things from time to time.. I wont mention any names...

I dont know if anyone else will chime in but I have said my peace..Oh;and for the record I think I have woken up and smelled the coffee a million times over..

Take Care and hope you also find what you are looking for..

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2006

Hi Free, i read your post and just had to say: not many people are capable of replying to others so kindly, honestly and from the heart.. Now i only hope for you that you will very soon be rewarded for so much kindness by a wonderful man appearing in your life, a promising *someone* with a good job and a nice little house, who would fall in love with you and ask you to move in with him and never leave him again.. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008

Wow, I must say that you are more than a tad judgemental. You sound like you have alot on the ball, but I do not in any way think that you are "out there" or not "real." I think that any number of the women who post here are also attractive, accomplished, etc etc. I don't really find you that different from a number of women I know.  For what it's worth, I am 51 and regularly get hit on by guys in their 20s and 30s as well.  I don't think that makes me super hot.  I think younger people like my sense of humor and fun.

I think the others are right that this person is a fake.  My only question is what took them so long to figure it out.  Also, please rest assured that I haven't given your veracity a second thought.  Nor am I envious or jealous of you.  I wish you well wherever you go, but please spare us the sanctimoniousness.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 08-04-2012 - 7:50pm

No not fake just in a very different milieu of society. 

chaika

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008

Ok, if you say so.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 12:48pm
I don't want to beat a dead horse, and probably am but I'm confused by this: "My only question is what took them so long to figure it out." I've seen that a few times, and not only from you. How would anyone know who had figured out what and when unless they made a public accusation? I am under the assumption that we've all been thinking the same thing all along, but nobody wanted to be the bad guy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008

My apologies.  You are quite right.  It is just that I and at least one other person stopped commenting on he/she/ it's missives a long time ago.  I was amazed that some of the others just kept feeding into this long after it became obvious that this was all bogus.   Even soap operas (which I have used for escape in the past) are not this implausible.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 1:06am

Prove it was bogus.  There is no proof. 

chaika

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Having lived in LA for a while, it is as much a culture of empty superficiality and narcissism as it is sunshine and smog. Probably far more than anywhere else in the US. So her posts were right in line with what goes on there. Whether she is believed to be real or part of someone's novel, what always amazed me was how so many people routinely went along with her style, it was - meet a guy, glow about how wonderful it was going to be, a few days later go on about some bizarre problem about him, end it, and then go on about an amazing self discovery about it all. And she got continuous regular responses. Yet like a regular TV sitcom, these self discoveries appeared to be forgotten within a day and never mentioned again.
 
It seemed really futile to me for anyone to be responding with the often very thoughtful responses to a person, whether you believe to be real or not, who wasn't changing one ounce. So this person does have exceptional skills to draw people in fast and hold them.  
 
I started to comment on that several times, but as a guy, I figured I would get slammed as not being understanding and people seemed to be really enjoying her posts. Since her posts were basically the same, I usually ignored them but enjoyed some interesting discussion that followed them and kept this board going. Great hearing how women think. Most of the other boards are dead with sometimes only one post a week - often being I-met-this-guy-once-and-am-in-love-why-hasn't-he-called posts. Hope this one stays active and lively, nice to have good thoughts to get the morning started.
Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
JT, that's exactly why I chose not to respond regularly anymore. The same story over and over got incredibly boring, and I noticed the same pattern you did. If I did respond, I didn't put much thought into it. I knew I would be ignored.

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