I Just Need a Shoulder

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I Just Need a Shoulder
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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 8:03pm
Hey everyone. I am a 22 yrs old female living the high life in Oakville, Ontario. Ok that was complete sarcasm but after everything I have gone through the past month at least I have that left. I have been going through a pretty rough break up....all I have to say is that there was cheating involved and it wasn't me!....and all I need right now is someone to losten and talk to. I have a good ear too. I just need to keep busy while I am going through this because talking is the best therapy and I sure need it right now. I currently live with my ex but am moving out in 4 days! You could almost say that I am being reborn. I plan to do a lot of things with my new found freedom. So thats the scoop. I am fun, loving and single with a big heart that needs a little mending. Anyone who want to talk feel free to. We are here to let lose and have some fun!!!
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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 10:11pm
Welcome to the board, Angel! I'm sorry you had to go through a nasty breakup. I don't think I've ever been cheated on, but I've suspected, and even that's awful to think about. I have a couple of shoulders, as does everyone else, so vent away! We're all here for each other!

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 11:43pm
ack. cheaters suck. i put cheating in the same category as lying and stealing.

if you get caught, you're gonna lose a lot more than you were hoping to gain.


but even if you don't get caught, you still lose your integrity!

imho, it's a big lose lose proposition to me. well, unless we're talkin' about a million bucks...

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:42pm
Hey Girl,

Something tells me you're going to be just fine. You're already looking forward to new and better things, which is such a healthy sign! I wish you the best. Enjoy your singlehood! Be sure to be good to yourself. Give yourself at least one night a week to be alone, and make sure you indulge in something like a bubble bath, a manicure, a good chick flick, etc. And remember that we're all here for you! You are among friends.

Cheers,

Nini

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:29pm
Thanks a lot. I am still a little up and down right now. I guess because I am getting closer to my moving date. It is going to take a while for me to get use to the fact that I am single now and even though my ex is a complete jerk, I still miss him. But I know that I will get through it. What I could really use right now is a really nice guy to sweep me off my feet...but I guess I have to get out to get that!
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:02pm
Angel - If it were me, I wouldn't rush to be in a relationship again right away - there are some advantages to being single that you might have forgotten!! :)

Including being able to flirt with anyone you want, spending lots of time bonding with your girlfriends, wearing a sassy little outfit to a bar and having men buy you drinks and dance with you, doing what you want when you want to...

I know it'll be hard and lonely at first, but you really are being reborn in a way. Take advantage of it, sweetie!

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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 6:45pm
This is all very true. I do have a slight memory of going out with the girls and doing a little flirting here and there....but its a little fuzzy. I wish I could take advantage of being single again and going out with my friends, but pathetically I don't have any. We were so attached at the hip that I never stopped to realize that I don't have any freakin friends. And all the while, he had a new girlfriend and everything behind my back. So now I am stuck to deal with this all on my own..except venting to all of you and my mom. Apart from that I really don't have anyone. Now I am not up for feelign bad for myself..but I would feel bad for someone else in my situation. I just want to go out and meet all kinds of new people...but I don't have anyone to do that with.
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Mon, 09-01-2003 - 8:15pm
Welcome to the board. I am fairly new here as well. So far, so good. :)

If you were in VA, I'd say come on over for a drink or three! ;)

There are all sorts of ways to meet people...just starting to get out and do things will prove that. Best of luck to you, girly!