I met my friend's new BF

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Registered: 11-28-1999
I met my friend's new BF
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Sat, 06-28-2014 - 10:34am

I did post something a while ago that I was annoyed because my friend's new BF didn't want her going dancing with any other men.  Well we finally met him last night.  I can certainly see why she fell for him--he seems very nice, good looking, good job, has a nice house, Christian (which is very important to her).  I mean at middle age, it's much harder to find a decent man, so when you meet someone who has all those good qualities, you can't let him get away!  So I'm sure the dancing doesn't even bother her since she is so crazy for him now.  Even though they are long distance, they spent the last 2 weeks together.  She's a teacher so she has the summer off and he's a financial adviser so he could do his work anywhere as long as he doesn't have to meet with clients in person.  That would be way too much for me after only a couple of months of dating, but it seems like they are on the fast track.  I wouldn't be surprised at all if they get engaged very quickly, which brings me to the point that makes me sad.  I know if they get married, she will move and then we won't see each other any more.  It's 5 hours away and where he lives is not like a tourist place where it would be fun to go on vacation so while we may keep in touch by email or phone calls, it will really be losing a friend.  The place where he lives is actually where she grew up so she wouldn't mind moving.  He already said he is not interested in moving because he has a nice house (10 acres of land) and he likes being in the country.

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Sat, 06-28-2014 - 3:53pm
I'm glad you at least like him. It's sad that women let friendships go once they get married, but it usually happens.
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Sat, 06-28-2014 - 5:39pm

Right now she is in the infatuation stage where they want to spend every minute together.  I think the key problem is that she will probably move away, otherwise we could still do things togehter.  Another friend in my group got a BF at the end of last year but we still see her.  Sometimes we have a girls night out but sometimes she will drag him along with all women, either eating or dancing--he's very easy going and doesn't seem to mind and we all like him.

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Sun, 06-29-2014 - 11:37am

At least he's likeable enough.  Maybe they'll invite you up to visit if she ends up moving . . . Maybe he'll have a gaggle of good quality, eligible bachelor friends.  Maybe it won't work out at all and she'll stay in your neck of the woods.  Sorry, trying to be positive for you.  Oh, one more maybe, LOL . . . Maybe the void left by her, if she moves, will be filled by someone new such as, a fun new girlfriend or perhaps even a suitor.  

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Sun, 06-29-2014 - 12:26pm

At least I have a group of single GFs--I hope I'm not the only single one left standing but it doesn't look like that will happen.  It would not matter if he had single friends because 1) I'm not interested in doing a LDR--I don't have time for that and 2) I would definitely not move, at least until I am retired.  And if I move, it would have to be somewhere warmer than New England, not somewhere there is even more snow!