I met someone, now i'm confused
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| Mon, 10-31-2005 - 12:31pm |
Ok, my Flapper costume for Halloween celebrations on Saturday night went well- I actually met someone at the bar and spent the night with him :) He's a friend of a friend, and I actually met him briefly a few years ago when I was in a relationship.
Well, we just hit it off on Saturday night and ended up talking for a really long time and then making out at my apartment, and continueing to talk. I really felt a connection and so want to get to know him better. In fact, I was also really impressed that he didn't want to have sex- which makes me thinks he's not the kind of guy to do one-night-stands and that he wants to take things slow. And he's a great kisser!
Anyhoo, so he has my number and I've never been in this situation before. I felt confident he would call, but not sure what kind of timeline I should give him. We were up until 6 am yesterday, so I figured he didn't call last night because he didn't want to call too soon after and seem over-eager or whatnot. I'm hoping he'll call tonight and gah, my stomach has been in knots all day so far.
I've decided to proceed with my regular life- go grocery shopping and get my skates sharpened after work. I may go watch a scary movie at a friend's place and eat candy. So I'm thinking this is healthy- not to sit around and wait for him to call. This whole being single again thing and "hoping he'll call game" is stressful!
So just a question too for you gals (or guys) reading this- after meeting someone at a bar and having a passionate night together, what's the usual next step? If he calls should I ask him if he wants to go on a date- ie, go for dinner and then ice skating afterwards. Or should i just leave the ball in his court here and see if he asks me out? I'm such a beginner at this! It's been 4 years since I've been single and before that I didn't actually really date- just a string of serious relationships.

>There are no set rules in dating
This is different because it's not like they just met and swapped numbers. They spent the night together and made out. He should make the call.
I agree.
Plus, you are worth being chased! Going on with your own life and keeping busy with the things you like is very attractive to guys (not to mention, good for you, too). If he doesn't call, then someone else will realize how wonderful you are and HE will call.
Good luck!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I can't help but feel a bit hurt that he didn't call me the next day and isn't excited about getting to know me better (as I feel about him) but oh well. I'll get through this.
I was talking to the girl who's our mutual friend, and apparently he told her he is going to call me but he's just doing shift work this week and is busy- which could either be a lame excuse ("he's just not that into me") or could be true.
I think that's a good idea, let him chase you, if he doesn't, then his loss. I'm in the same boat, newly single. I don't have a problem meeting guys, and they ask for my phone number, nut then don't call.
What give's??????