I miss the single life. . . . .

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Registered: 11-21-2004
I miss the single life. . . . .
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 9:58pm
I miss being single and free. Married life after only a year is already boring. I have the 7 year itch after only 1 year. I'm tempted whenever guys come on to me.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 11:03pm

What is it that you'd like to be able to do that you feel like you can't right now?

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:10am
Maybe you married the wrong person or married for the wrong reasons.
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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 10:38am

I think it's a little normal to a certain degree...and I think you're past that degree simply because you said you're bored...and you didn't mention still being in love with him.

If you don't love him and don't want to be in the relationship, let him go. You need to be fair to him! Don't subject him to you just hanging around, he deserves better than that. Divorce isn't a great thing but neither is a loveless, boring, uninterested marriage to a man who thinks to world of you.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:02am

Oh yeah it's great being single.

I get to go on all sorts of dates with guys that could care less about me, are trying to screw me without even bothering to learn my last name or because they think I'm 'hawt'. I get to play the game Is He Really Into Me or Playing An Act Until He Either Gets Some or Doesn't. It's a total game of chance and most times, I do lose.

I get to wait by the phone hoping for another date or some semblance of interest all while partying it up with my other single girls so we can go out and drink and dance and act like we don't miss having a loving man in our lives while we all secretly do miss it and aren't looking forward to crawling into out solitary beds at 4am, tired, sweaty and alone.

I get to hop from one man to the next, almost like a pit stop, as none will take any real genuine interest in me, my thoughts, feelings or concerns. They will come and go. A different roster of faces and occupations nearly every month.

I get to run into guys that passed me up, dissed me or rejected me at social gatherings hugged up on their new girl who they are of course now, committed and madly in love with.

I get to sleep alone, unhugged, uncuddled, unloved and not missed every single night!!

I get to date guys that won't hold my hand in public, will barely acknowledge they are dating me and keep me at arms length at all times.

Holidays and birthdays come by and I get to hope that friends come through cause let's face it, a man will not.

I get to dream about having a regular sex life with a man that will love me. Cause fantasizing about something you can't have is fun!

I also get to worry and scrutinize every single dating situation to figure out if he's a keeper or not, a user or not and whether I should cut him loose or deal with his crap for some temporary fun or to stya out the house on a Friday night. There's nothing like dating below your expectations in the hopes that you may be surprised. Then of course, not being surprised at all.

Singledom is the best.

I can't wait to get home tonight to my 3-4 hours of homework, then crawl my weary butt into bed while the phone won't ring cause no one misses me or is even thinking of me.

Yep, it's the life.

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Registered: 05-26-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 2:36pm

I haven't read the rest of the thread, so i apologize!

I have just re-entered the "single life" after about 2 years....what is there to miss!? I have never heard one appealing story about being single - now, or when i was in a relationship!

Obviously i have no idea what marriage is like, but weren't you with him for a while before? what gives you these feelings now?

You have someone to cuddle with on the couch, and watch movies/tv, someone to slow dance with in your living room. you always have a date to weddings, you have a shoulder to cry on at funerals. you have someone to talk to in bed, you have someone to give you hugs when you need them, or protect you from stupid stuff like storms. You have someone to hold hands with in the park; to picnic with, to travel with, to ride around rome on a vespa, to tell all your secrets too, to bitch about your friends to. to call them whenever soemthing funny happens. you have someone who knows how to make you feel good, someone you can fart in front of, feel fat in front of, brush your teeth together...etc etc etc. the list goes on and on.

so what do you miss? I honesly would love to know, and to have something to look forward to.