I need some advice or support

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Registered: 05-07-2003
I need some advice or support
Wed, 05-07-2003 - 4:03pm

I dont know what to do.

I feel so depressed this summer, and I dont know what to do abt it.

Here's the situation:

I am a 24 yr old female, and I live with my family, thats the good part. There are several reasons I feel so sad this summer, and they just combine into this depression that I feel. It's just been building one thing on top of another. I just graduated from college in dec 2002, and am look for a marketing job. And right now I work at casual corner part time, and I hate it. I dont make my sales goals most of the time, cause the store I work in isn't that busy, and few people come in. and I honestly dont feel like running around after people. i've cut back my hours so much and i end up only working 2-3 days a week, which was fine. But on May 1st my mom left for a three month vaction in another country, and I feel so at a loss. cause my mom doesnt have a job and i spent so much of my free time with her, and would talk to her abt stuff like this msg, and i don't have anyone else to talk to abt this hence i'm here. and i'm sorry to say i dont have many if any close friends to hang out with or talk with, and now that my mom is gone for ths summer i notice the void more then ever before.

I guess I just feel lonley, I can't talk to my father abt this cause were're not very close, and my brother works and spends so much time talking to his fiancee on the phone, that even when he is home i still feel by myself, and i just keep picturing my mom on vaction having fun and spending time my aunts/uncles/cousins. i'm happy for her, i am, but i feel so lost and lonely being at home by myself that i end up crying almost everyday.

i was thinking abt taking some classes in my old college but i'm not sure. i feel pathetic and sorry cause of my situation, but what can i do? i can't afford to spend $40 a week seeing a movie every day.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-07-2003 - 5:39pm
sounds like you grew a little TOO dependant on mommy...

her trip is a good kick in the butt. you need this push to get your life on track again. you graduated from college! why aren't you spending 4+ hrs a day looking for work? where would you be now if you weren't allowed to stay at home?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 05-07-2003 - 6:54pm
You need to get out! There is more to life than your mother. You don't have to spend money to leave the house. Take a walk, go to the bookstore and browse, or look for a job. I understand being lonely, because I am a lot of the time too, but it's not going to get any better by staying home all the time. Get out and talk to someone, even if it's just the cashier at Walmart.

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Registered: 05-07-2003
Thu, 05-08-2003 - 11:34am
I do agree. I am in the same situation where i have alot of free time on my hands esp in between sch holidays. I hate holidays sometimes but honestly, u need to pick urself up and do something that prehaps u like to do. once u get the momentum gg, u will slowly fill ur time. sometimes the going gets tough, like in the process of finding a job, you meet alot of rejecting and just want to stay at home. but u got to soldier on.

what i learn from life experiences is not to be too comfortable in ur enviroment, even with family, they have their own life too. cant expect them to be there 24 hrs