i need some damage control (advice)
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| Mon, 02-13-2006 - 12:52pm |
somehow my ex (after a year we broke up) have remained good friends, and civil. Lately we have emailed each other - and they have been rather flirtatious.. So, on Saturday night when i was out.. i txt msg'd him that i wanted to see him. I didn't expect an immediate response.. but when i got no response at all (i knew he was out too).. the alcohol got the better of me and I called him. There was no answer so I sent a txt msg instead - more along the lines "that i think you're a loser".. I haven't heard from him since.. other than being a very bad boyfriend, he is a good friend.. I don't want him to think i'm crazy..
my friends think i should pretend to 'forget about it'.. what do you think i should do? I feel so humiliated! my worse fear is that he read my message and laughed.

what was the original reason for calling and texting him? because you wanted to see him and you were feeling things for him? So how did your feelings flip to the point of calling him a loser all within the same night!?
I'd say move past it - if he doesn't bring it up - don't! But figure out what you feel and stick to it, from here on out!
Good luck!
If your relationship is genearlly mature in nature, I'd send him one more message that said "sorry about the other night, I don't know what I was thinking" and leave it at that.
You have no control over the situation and the only thing you can do at this point is apologize and learn from it.
sigh.. should I call him or leave it as a text or email message instead? (gosh, i feel like an idiot)
I still like the guy.. long story short.. we got along great and things ended rather abruptly when he was fired and didn't qualify for unemployment. I think he was too embarrassed to see me and he would never admit to it either.
But now i learn never to bring my cellphone when i'm out.. if i need to make a call, i will just use my friend's. :-)
Yep! He's probably aware that it was a drunk dial and may be saving her the embarassment of acknowledging it.
Keykoo,
>sigh.. should I call him or leave it as a text
>or email message instead? (gosh, i feel like an idiot)
Don't contact him again. He didn't reply because he did NOT want to so don't start chasing him like an obsessed woman or you will ruin the "friendship".
>I think he was too embarrassed to see me and
>he would never admit to it either.
It's reckless to think this way. Perhaps his unemployment was an excuse or a catalyst to ending the relationship but it was definitely not THE reason.
You don't want to be his friend, you want to be his lover again and I think he knows it.