i really resent this...
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| Fri, 02-09-2007 - 11:30pm |
I was out to lunch with a few married friends today and as always, whenever they meet with me they ask me if I'm seeing anyone. it's like I owe them a monthly report or something. then we get into a discussion about whether or not they'd date anyone with kids and I said no. then one of them keeps telling me i'm judgemental, and that i have to just let myself fall in love with anyone, and that women aren't supposed to be so judgemental, we're supposed to be more emotional... so i asked her, well, don't you have some basic standards that you like to meet? and she replied in front of everyone, well, maybe the reason why you're still single is because you just really don't want to get married.
i don't understand why she said that. it's not like i found it insulting, it's more that i feel like she's blaming me for my being single, as if i chose this life and if i didn't want to be single i'd go out with anyone who asked me out regardless of my basic standards.
experiences like this just make me not want to hang out with my married friends anymore.

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Smile,
Deirdre
I've read your posts Ruby and have enjoyed what you have had to say. All of us bring different ideas to certain topics and that's what makes each one of us unique. Sometimes though another's posts and opinions tend to cut though and it's happened to me and I've had to take breaks from the board for a bit because of it.
Ruby, I hope you won't leave.
take care,
iv_nancy - what a discussion you started!
I'm glad my answers were well received... ::happy dancing in my seat::
I have quite a few friends who are married and have children - they are all very supportive of my decision to stay single. They got married because they wanted to - they found a guy who fit them and so on.
I don't date divorced guys, kids or no. Tried that once, and I ended up being the one who did all the caretaking. I'm a "mother" all on my own, I don't need kids to do it. :-)
I don't date smokers. I have asthma. They don't mix.
Call me judgemental, but they are choices that I have to live with. They work for me.
Pooh1972
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