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i think i know what men want
| Sat, 10-15-2005 - 8:31pm |
men say they want a nice girlfriend..they say that nice women don`t want them..but you know what?they always seem to like women who are very slutty,ditzy,and or nutty..does anyone else agree with me on this?I am not the type to go to bed soon..which is why i don`t date..why bother,and is it fair to tease a guy by going out to a movie with him or dinner when there is just one thing he wants really?

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I don't like to generalize, but I'm going to have to go non-PC on this one and agree.
I would have to disagree on this (and I am a WOMAN). Of course men always want sex, it's a proven fact, but they don't always act on it. I have talked to a lot of men about this very thing and for men sex is just sex. They can have sex with the ditzy/slutty/nutty women, but these are not the women they get serious with. If a man wants a relationship he won't mind waiting to have sex with a woman. In fact, he'll respect her even more for having self-respect and not giving in too soon. As men mature they want to settle down just like women, it might just take men a little longer. So my advice is to date, have fun, and if a man stops dating you because you won't have sex when they're ready-move on, they're not worth your time anyway.
~Stacy~
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As men mature they want to settle down just like women, it might just take men a little longer.
And this is why so many of us here that are 27/28/29 are so frustrated with men.
I don't know- i kind of agree and disagree. I agree that a lot of men want that "easy" woman and just want sex. But I also have a lot of male friends that, albeit they want sex, but are looking for "the one"- just like us gals.
I had a great friend who when he was 25 was so desparate to meet a woman and start the family thing- he finally got it 2 years ago.
So I think a lot of our thoughts on guys are generalizations. Which is why i kind of don't have a desire to read "he's just not that into you." because I've known many, many guys that are just too shy to make the first move and are also not looking for one night stands, so they DON'T want to go up to your apartment at the drop of a hat- they actually want to wait and be old fashioned and properly court a woman. And i'm not saying this in a naive way, but after many close conversations with exes and male friends where we abashedly talk about sex and relationships.
I like to remind myself that we're all just people- take away our sexes, ages, colours of our skin, and we're essentially the same.
I cannot agree more with this response!!! There ARE great men out there. Yes, they love sex, they're only human! Yes, they also can sleep with the not-so-great women. But, these are not the women the take home to meet mom or who they want for long-term. Just like stacymt29 suggested, get out there and date and take it one step at a time. I am also not one to sleep around, but I find more men respect me for it! Get out there and date. There are good men out there.
Kcole
As far as sleeping around believe it or not, most men I meet want a relationship when I m looking for something more basic but I tell you I m not finding it. And once I mention to the guy I m not into serious stuff he goes running!! :~)
Maybe it is better this way
I got a job interview tomorrow so I gotta sleep early
It sounds like you are just plain angry, which is completely acceptible. I mean even your grammer and spelling is incorrect beacuse you were so quick to get your message out. Don't let your anger jade your perception. Not all guys are the same. I am 30 and you know what, some men never grow up and some men do. But it is a fact that it takes some men longer to mature. So you might as well accept it, rather than fight it and be alone. Also, being a thirty year old does NOT mean that automatically you're a slut or have been with millions of women!!! I think a lot of women here have given proven examples that there ARE good men out there that are in the same situation as us women. There ARE also women out there that treat men the same way and just want to sleep around. It goes both ways. Who cares anyway??? What one person does in their life is for nobody else to judge, as long as they're being honest and up-front with the other person. I hate to say this, but your closed minded attitude will only leave you single. One day you will wake up and be thirty(which is not a bad thing either by the way) and wonder why you are still single. But of course in your opinion, you might as well give up because all the men have diseases....... I really hate to sound like a "you know what", but your attitude is keeping you from meeting some really great guys who probably want the same thing you do, which is a wonderful relationship, disease free.
Good luck!!!!!
I'll have to agree with kcole here...you sound really angry and bitter about men right now. It really sounds like you've been screwed around by men, but you can't project that behavior on to every other man out there! Not every man is looking for the ditzy girl to have a one night stand with...and if you're meeting these guys all the time, then maybe you're looking in the wrong places?
In the last few months I've met plenty of great guys that are looking for serious, loving relationships...some of them are friends of mine, some are guys that I dated, but it just didn't work out because of our differences or the physical distance between us or whatever.
Anyway, there ARE good men out there! But, if you're not willing to give them a chance, then perhaps you should pull yourself out of the dating game for a while until you can get a more optimistic attitude about it all.
Good luck :)
Alyssa
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