i think i know what men want

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Registered: 01-28-2004
i think i know what men want
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Sat, 10-15-2005 - 8:31pm
men say they want a nice girlfriend..they say that nice women don`t want them..but you know what?they always seem to like women who are very slutty,ditzy,and or nutty..does anyone else agree with me on this?I am not the type to go to bed soon..which is why i don`t date..why bother,and is it fair to tease a guy by going out to a movie with him or dinner when there is just one thing he wants really?
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 9:20pm

Ah, yeah. Of course men are on their best behavior in the begining. That's no secret, at all! So are women at first. Just like men can "think" they like you one moment and change their mind another minute . It's called they don't know what they want because they're unsure. It's also called immaturity. They need to "grow up". That's why one guy will give up a chance to date a beautiful "good" girl, to date a "not so cute" or annoying girl just to get laid. Or they complain they want a nice girl, yet they never want to date one. Again, these boys need to grow up. Some do it in college and want to marry right away. For some others, it takes a lot longer. Sometimes never. If you see a forty something still single and had never been married, then run!!!

About the sex thing. I am glad you seem to know what you're willing keep sacred. If it means that much to you, then maybe you should consider a Christian dating website where you are more likely to meet guys with the same moral standards. I think I believe it was the previous post who said that maybe you're looking in the wrong spots for guys. I think maybe you are. Quite frankly, I don't know where you're meeting these sex crazed guys. I date, sometimes often. And no, I am NOT easy. I have never had a guy expect antything more than I wanted. I find most men are quite polite. My advice is to date a little older than yourself, even if it is two years older. In general, this is when the guy and girl seem to be on a better wavelength. Whoever said guys don't mature slower is a little off the mark. They do and that is why you find guys date slighty younger women.

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 7:55am
yes i need to stop picking men off the streets and bars and clubs...sorry But no i really don`t find guys there..where have I met anyone I dated?through work or a friend..and I haven`t been in many relationships but it doesn`t matter to me...not all women pick up guys at bars...or parties..to be honest with you I was never really into that scene..any party I go to is a holiday type where all friends are there..or work parties..I volunteer on first aid squad too,so I hardly drink,not when you make some committment to take first aid calls ya know?If me and my friends go ot a bar it is to check out a cool band or hang out at Atlantic city or just talk and have fun....not to meet men...so there are jerks everywhere..even at church..just ask a friend of mine...LOL
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 8:00am
i think and notice the women who get lucky meeting good guys are exactly what i am opposite of.the sluts and barhoppers and partiers and the B*tches...hate to say it..but that is all I see..and i am not changing...I guess I am too boring..nothing wrong with sex...but I think by third date rule that men follow is too much for me to handle...but seriously,at my age men are way too into geting just drunk and laid..and bleieve me I don`t hagn around it..as for those who are saying i am meetign wrong guys going to wrong places..well if that was the case I wouldn`t be posting on message board because then I am doing it to myself and if i enjoyed it I wouldn`t be complaining
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 11:50am

I don't think anyone is denying there are jerks out there. Hell, we've all run into them. It's a part of growing, learning and moving on. Honestly, if you never had to deal with jerks before, do you really think you'd be able to appreciate the goods one later on??? This is the last point I am going to make on this dicussion. Yes, there are jerks out there,but there are also a lot of good men out there, too. Try to keep and open mind.

Calie

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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 10:47am
well there are just too many jerks..even my guy friend says most guys are jerks..most is way too much for me!it really isn`t worth it to me to even try and give one more a chance...but I guess it makes me not mormal
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 7:11pm

Why in the WORLD did you post this message in the first place? You're obviously totally convinced that every guy out there is a total jerk...and if there ARE good guys out there, they're only attracted to the slutty, bitchy girls.

All we have been trying to do is to try and make you see that there ARE decent guys out there, and there are decent girls out there too! But, you're not listening to us, you just reply to every single message with something about how much guys suck, and how they're all only looking for sex, or whatever...

Well, if that's what you think, then that's fine. You're entitled to your own opion, and I'm sorry for what you must have gone through in order to feel like that. BUT, don't post messages about it if you're just going to shoot everyone else's opinion, life experience, and advice down.

Alyssa

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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:47pm
i wasnt shooting down everyone`s answers ..i certainly wasn`t trying to at least..until someone wrote and emailed me rather rude things..and didn`t read the post at all and assumed I am some dumb virgin..that wasn`t even the case,and I am not one..although it might not be a bad thing either...really i just wanted some opinions about it..what other women think if it seems like the nice girls are not popular or attractive to men
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 10:27am
and another thing some people agreed with my posts..so how come no one flips out at them?just the one who posted it?
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Registered: 10-27-2005
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 10:04am
I think what men do is this....sleep around and party while they are in their 20`s,then when they reach like 26 or so,then they want to settle.By then alot of women are single and had it with guys.LOLBut yes,of course men are always going to go after the women that put out soon(keep in mind alot of women do this obviously so if it is in the guy`s face,he is going to go for it)And yes the wild women,ones with problems,etc,are appealing to men,because they know she will take his crap.It makes it easier for them.
I say why date if you are not going to put out on the date?
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 1:10pm

Men go out and have a good time until they find a woman worth staying home. Its as simple and as complicated as that.

I would argue that women do the exact same thing, except as in some other aspects of life, women reach that point faster than men. Doesn't make men the bad ones.

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