i think i know what men want
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i think i know what men want
| Sat, 10-15-2005 - 8:31pm |
men say they want a nice girlfriend..they say that nice women don`t want them..but you know what?they always seem to like women who are very slutty,ditzy,and or nutty..does anyone else agree with me on this?I am not the type to go to bed soon..which is why i don`t date..why bother,and is it fair to tease a guy by going out to a movie with him or dinner when there is just one thing he wants really?

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You can not generalize that all men want to sleep with as many women as possible, are after sex all the time and that is all they want when dating. If you are, then I feel sorry that you haven't met more upstanding men. My boyfriend did not see dating as a means to get sex...he actually used it to meet new women and get to know them as people. The men I have known have been quite similar. I have one male friend that was a guy solely out for sex, but I would argue that he never really dated any of the girls he slept with.
I will agree that men want sex...I just don't think that all men think with their penis and let their penis be their guide. Guys don't have to date to get sex...they can go to a bar and pick someone up. Thats not dating...thats sex. There is a difference. Its like the girl that thinks because someone is checking her out, he wants to be her date or boyfriend. Its not the same thing. Yes...it can lead to that and woot woot if it does...but its not automatic.
And you're right, if a woman wants sex and a guy wants sex, then whats wrong with it? I don't find anything wrong with it. And to use sex as a measuring stick on whether or not to date someone...seems a bit off to me. Yes attraction is important but what happened to getting to know someone just for the sake of knowing someone new and maybe finding a connection? Use sex as a measuring stick for getting sex...not for dating.
To assume that every guy's penis is his leader is to insult a lot of men.
Rubyshoes
Then I guess I was a tease for those years that I dated but didn't put out. I think that my dates would disagree though.
Rubyshoes
I dated one for 9 months. The others I wasn't interested past the 3 or 4th date.
I guess I don't drop my pants after the requisite third date. I DO think that people can date and not have sex. I DO think that people can date without expecting or being required of sex.
Rubyshoes
I don't think I have ever said that there is anything wrong with sex. I love sex. He loves sex. Geezus if he wasn't 600 miles away, we'd be like rabbits. And he isn't gay. He's very much a straight high libido guy.
I don't think there is a timeline as to when people want to have sex. Its individual there's no set rule. Again...I don't give a damn when people have sex and whats proper and what isnt...thats what an individual chooses for themself.
What I've chosen is what I've chosen.
Rubyshoes
First, I think that it is never okay to place a label on anyone simply because of what they have or have not chosen to do.
***Not having sex is TEASING the guy..and it is not right***
Are you SERIOUS? This is one of the most mysoginistic things that I have heard in a long time. If you honestly feel this way, then I think that you have some serious issues that you need to address. Your view of dating and men does not strike me as particularly healthy and it also strikes me as being pretty damning of everybody.
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