I think I've been meant to be alone.........................

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003
I think I've been meant to be alone.........................
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Sun, 09-25-2011 - 7:56pm

Okay, so I met my girlfriend on Friday for a few drinks.

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001

I think you got asked out, too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

What was it that he did that made him an idiot?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011

I feel like there's a missing paragraph.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003

Shy I think you are right...it was suppose to be a date.

I got to thinking about the day and things are coming together.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

Well I don't really understand this behavior.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
I disagree with your girlfriend. Nothing in what you said about this interaction indicates him asking you out on a date. He was encouraging you to come out to see the show. I have done things similar to others.

I think you were "set up" with false expectations. You can blame him or you can take responsibility on how you misinterpreted his communication.

I am sorry for you pain but if you play victim by "see what happens when I ... fill-in-the-blank" then you set yourself up. I encourage you to approach life and such social interactions with having a good time regardless, not letting others negatively impact you to such a degree, and own your own feelings for nobody can really make you feel something.

I know that place of being an outsider and dealing with less-than-honest people. I also adhere to what I stated to you about expectations for as the saying goes, Expectations are premeditated resentments.

Mark
Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001

That "nobody can make you feel something" line is really just a cop out for bullies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003

Actually deep down I had the same feeling and would have never really acted on it if it wasn't for my friend.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003

Shy, you hit that one on the button.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I guess I don't really understand why you are so mad and/or disappointed about this--and I'm not trying to be mean or put you down.

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