I think...

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Mon, 02-05-2007 - 7:36am

Ya know, I think that one of the hardest things to do in life is to discover who you really are and what you really want.

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In reply to: cl_shywon
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 12:47pm
This is definately true too Elsa, what we want changes in life. I have wanted a good provider all through my 20s but now that isn't as important as how I connect with the person. Even 10 years ago at 21, I wanted different things than I do now at 31.
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 1:10pm

I have a friend who always has to go to the "new and fun" place to eat as well. It always secretly annoys me, and I have finally started to push back. What's wrong with "old and comfortable"? Those new and fun places are often far away, tiny, and way overpriced. Classic example of going along with someone else so you don't rock the boat, but then your pocketbook and stomach hate you for it later. :)

As far as knowing what I want. I have always followed a slightly odd life path - definitely not how my friends and family would choose for me, but they love me anyway. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 1:45pm
Old and comfortable suits me just fine ; ) I have several friends who will ONLY go to the trendy spots and it gets annoying. I don't mind going to those places every once in a while but sometimes it feels like they are going there to be seen rather than catching up with the person(s) they walked into the joint with.
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 6:34pm

"Someone even mentioned that I'm "secretive." It's not that I'm secretive, I just don't feel like the whole world needs a say in what happens in my life! I think that when I made the decision to make my own decisions and not continually ask for advice when I already had an opinion, that's when I truly started living my life for me."

So very true. It's not about being secretive, it's about finding our own truth regardless of outside influences. I find it hard to discuss about my relationship with others even when they do ask because I dont want to spill too much about what's going on sometimes for fear of "jinxing" the situation or just worried that other's may not like certain things about him for me and then they will judge or give opinions. In fact, someone in my codependency meetings that I go to gave her opinion on something about my boyfriend and it really rubbed me the wrong way and then I started doubting him and myself for a brief moment, but then realized that her opinions don't reflect my beliefs and after that episode, I decided just to keep my mouth shut about things and that's the last time i will mention anything to her regarding him.

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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:47am

>>I just don't feel like the whole world needs a say in what happens in my life! <<

To Shy and Biochic~

I think keeping quiet on some personal things, especially your relationships, makes them more special and sacred. It keeps something for just the two of you - the rest of the world doesn't need to be part of that. Good for you both for sticking to your guns on that.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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