I wanna turn it off

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Registered: 01-23-2005
I wanna turn it off
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 2:55pm

the title may have mislead you, I'm not trying to make myself un~horny. Infact........
I have liked a guy for afew months, I dont know why, and I dont want to anymore, he has me running around in circles and then he just makes me feel bad about myself.
He's cold, and insultingly sharp tongued, but he's like it to everyone.
I know he has potential to be really nice and sweet, but if he wanted to he could couldnt he, and he hasnt for the past 3 months(very much).

he said yes to go to the movies (alone). then asked for my mob number from a mate so we could go shopping together. he even held my hand during a scary film, and another sad film, which makes me think that he could be nice.

I really wish I cold shake him off though because, I can take alot of jokey insults from people, but he can just make me feel horrible one minute then expect me to bounce back.
Listing all those bad things about him should put me off him, but I cant get him out of my head, maybe its his untouchableness that makes me want him.

Hope you enjoyed reading that, it does go around in circles but thats just how I feel.
anyone think that they can help?

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 12:21am
People show us what they are... we just choose not to believe them. Either you can deal with his drama or you can't... but be careful not to try to change him. My guess is that you see him as a challenge, a puzzle, a beast that can be tamed... maybe it's just plain sexual chemistry. I tend to like jerks. It's their assertiveness I like. But the thing is that when you get involved with someone you get involved with all of them. And people don't change... not unless they want to. If your instincts are telling you to run, then your instincts are probably right.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:20am

I agree.

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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:24am

I really like pizza.

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Registered: 01-23-2005
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:05pm
thanks for the suggestions, I get what your saying. And I do indeed think I will absorb the info. I will still give him his xmas present, because its just what he wanted but I am going to try to back off, gradually getting over the liking him phase. great fun aye. theres plenty of time to find a guy who I can get along with I guess.
xxx thank you
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Registered: 09-17-2006
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 1:32pm

My advice would be....put yourself back out there, and forget about this guy. If he's rude he might seem intresting at first (because he's a challenge), but there will come a point when he really wears you down. You CANNOT change someone, and don't ever assume that you can.

My ex was like this when we first got together...and I felt special because he was 'nice' to me. Well he turned out to be emotionally abusive, and it became harder and harder to leave. It really took a wear on my self-esteem.

His attitude problem is HIS problem....don't make it yours!!! Find someone who will make you feel good...and don't waste time on this guy.