I want to jump on the bed

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I want to jump on the bed
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 12:01am

I need something more exciting than what's going on in my life right now.

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:27pm

Actually, my favorite thing to do is spend time with my youngest niece and nephew....the oldest one when she's not into trouble.

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:30pm

I want to try to take some of those classes at Lowes this summer, but I won't do it unless it's something I'm truly interested in.

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:31pm

I would love to be able to just start talking to people like that.

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:52pm

Oh, believe me, I understand that. But for some reason, I just convinced myself that I'm a pretty fun, cool person, and I just started trying to force myself into thinking, "So what if one person acts catty? Yeah, that stings...but look at all these other people who respond favorably..."

One thing that helps me is my sense of humor. If someone was doing something funny in the group, I made sure to laugh, and comment and/or compliment the person for their funny "act." I just tried REALLY hard to not be intimidated by people. To this day, yeah, there are still some people whose cattiness gets to me...but I'm getting MUCH better at letting it roll off my back. And I think, "So one person in this room doesn't like me. BIG DEAL. There are TWENTY people in here who DO." Of course, it's not always easy. ;) But it is getting easier as time goes on.
















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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 11:53pm
I recently moved to Los Angeles and making friends is so difficult. Back on the East Coast, I have tons of friends and in High School and College, I was the girl who was friends with everybody. Fast forward a couple of years later, I am alone in California and finding it very, very difficult to make friends. When it comes to fun, I love going to museums, Zoo, beach and Live Theatre show. These are activities you can do on your own and meet people along the way. Also, I've recently joined some networking groups that professionals from all walks of live come together and just mingle. I got to say, it's lots of fun. Back on the East Coast, my friends and I used to attend singles activities like after hours mingling, dinner cruise etc. Going out alone to like a bar or club by yourself, as I've done since I got here, is NOT fun at all!!!! If you like to read like I do, grab your book and head to the park.
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 11:33am

You said you wanted something to look forward to . . . why don't you plan on having your niece and nephew come stay with you for a week? I don't know how much of an issue money is but I do every day ordinary stuff with my nieces and they don't seem to mind at all.

We go fishing, go for long drives; I cook at home to save some money but will take them out for ice cream cones if they have been well behaved. I'll take them to the lake to swim while I catch up on some reading. I'll take them to the occasional movie (matinee) but I bring a huge bag and slip pre-made pop corn, candy and coke in. We rent movies, read together, play games, find a school w/ a b-ball goal and shoot some hoops; we take our bikes to the school too and ride while we're there. We usually find a school with a huge parking lot. Oh, and they love going to those animal stores like Petsmart and Petco. They are girls so they also love the mall. They don't care if they only spend a couple of dollars, they just love going.

I have to say, I'm lucky, they are very easily entertained. They just love the extra attention. Would you be brave enough to take yours for a week? There are tons of things to do on a tight budget and they'll still think you're the best Aunt in the world. Again, not sure what yours is like but mine is TIIIGHT.

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 11:38am

I would love to take them for a week, but I'd need cages or a padded room!

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 12:31pm

>> Plus, that would probably cost me a good chuck of change, and I don't know if I could justify that to myself. <<

That's what usually holds me back as well. Why does everything interesting have to cost so much money? Even being social is a drain on the paycheck - a dinner out with friends is usually at least $20. That adds up after awhile. I think that's a big reason why I end up staying home a lot.

This summer, I decided to spring for a few concerts ($50 each). I miss seeing live music, so the splurge is worth it. I think a few classes to kill to boredom might be worth a little extra cash as well. We'll see. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 12:59pm

Yeah, one at a time would be good, then. Maybe their parents would meet you halfway?

I know what you mean though. While I was on vacation, we were all talking about how busy people seem to be these days. One of my friends was saying that after church, everyone goes in opposite directions whereas, when she was a child, she was always going with her parents to meet so and so at the restaurant around the corner ie people socialized.

Things are changing and I'm not sure if it is a result of technology or what. I think we've all noticed it. I have several girlfriends (married with kids) but only hear from them once in a blue moon. They hardly initiate getting together and whenever I take the initiative and propose getting together, they always have a handy excuse.

Oddly enough, a couple of them have actually admitted to me that they are feeling detached and withdrawn due to some depression. I went through a similar period myself but I can only be anti-social for so long then I just have to get back out there. I guess I'm lucky in that, I do have my periods of depression but it usually doesn't linger for very long.

It's sad, really. I think there are a lot of people out there (not you necessarily) who are searching for something but they're not sure what it is or how to go about getting it. Sorry, I got off subject there for a sec. I just wanted you to know that I think a lot of people go through what you are experiencing, not to say that you weren't aware of that fact already. It's like we're all struggling along, feeling alone, but don't know how to go about fixing it.

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 1:12pm

It is the detachedness that bugs me, too.