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| Wed, 03-28-2007 - 5:04pm |
Because I think I've gotten too far ahead of myself. I just want to know, what can I do to start talking to a girl I don't know? Because that's where I'm stuck at right now. I can't start a conversation because of a lack of confidence, a lack of any idea of what to say and so forth.
Some of you have suggested that I become friends with a girl so she could hook me up with her friends, but NONE of my former female friends ever even tried to hook me up. And I honestly don't think I have the energy and patience for being "just friends" with a girl again. All my female "friendships" were the most draining and unsatisfying relationships I've ever had.
So please, just tell me, what can I do or say to start a conversation with a girl I don't know but who I happen to think is pretty and is sitting a few seats away from me in class, pushing a shopping cart in a isle at the super market, walking past me in the opposite direction with a group of friends on campus or at the mall? Not hook up, not date, just start talking to?
Better yet, tell me some stories about guys who came up and approached you out of the blue and you felt interest attraction for.

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>>>You want to exchange money for sex...which is why I don't get why you won't just hire a pro.<<<
No I don't want to exchange money for sex. People shouldn't have to exchange anything for sex; not money, not dates, not gifts, not commitment. Sex should happen only for the sake of having sex; for the pleasure both people get out of it. Why should it be any other way?
I view prostitution and modern dating to be highly exploitative of men, because they're practices that exploit men's sexual needs for material gain. In fact, how is modern dating any different than prostitution? The only difference is that instead of paying money to sleep with a girl, I'm paying with dinners and gifts for the CHANCE to sleep with her. That is insane.
And besides, even if I did want to hire a prostitute, I go to a suburban college that's pretty far from any major city. Where would I even find one?
>>>And no, you don't "deserve" anything in return for spending time, energy or money on a woman.<<<
And why not?
Edited 4/15/2007 11:27 pm ET by redonculous
hey, wake up, but sex is meant to be for adult women and men because it has consequences (which you already know about). Girls and boys should not be having sex because they are not ready for the consequences, such as parenthood, or doctor's appointments involving medications for STDs. I guess if you're not an adult and you're craving adult activity, the problem is just that.....children always want to do the adult things, ie teens want to drink beer, but ....that's not ok, etc.
Like another person on this board, I keep saying I'm going to give up on you.....but your postings and musings make us just want to reply. Sometimes I think you are almost intentionally hopeless, or maybe another person on this board was correct in stating that you are just seeking attention.
Who knows???.....when you do manage to have sex....let us know if it was everything you have dreamed it to be.
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You think you're entitled to sex in return for dinner and a movie. So yeah, you want to exchange money for sex.
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That is really telling. Women are perceptive. They are picking up on the fact that you don't like them, which is probably one reason you aren't having any luck.
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Even very small towns have them.
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Sheri addressed this very well in another post.
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