I went on a date this wknd!
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| Sun, 05-18-2008 - 5:30pm |
I had a pretty good time, too! It was last minute to tell you the truth and wasn't really expecting it. But I wonder if you even call it a date? I've been talking to this guy, Tony for the past couple of weeks. He's a nice guy, he's 6'4" (taller than me which is a plus since I'm 6ft tall), Italian, and just a nice guy to be around really. He's a little younger than me. He's 27 & I'm 30 but that doesn't bother me. He's a very mature 27, IMO.
Anyway, he called me on my cell on my way back to work from lunch Friday afternoon and asked me if I wanted to come downtown to Riverfront after work since there was a concert going on all wknd down there. I said sure & we got to see Papa Roach & 3 Doors Down perform live down there at the Riverfront here in Nashville and we had a really good time. He's really nice and myself, him, his roommate, and some friends were just rockin out & having a good time. He was talking to me throughout the concert and just having fun,laughing & cutting up. I dunno what it is, but something about him, just really nice to be around and we laughed and had fun during the concert. Papa Roach & 3 Doors Down rocked, btw. When the concert ended, we walked back to his/my car along w/his friends and we were just standing around talking. Before I left he reached over and gave me a hug & asked me if we were still on for this week & would he be hearing from me again. I said of course.
We've been texting back & forth all wknd and he asked me if I want to get together with him for lunch Tuesday since I will be on-call working nights from home this week. So I replied back & told him I would. I gather that if a guy wasn't attracted to you or just wasn't into you, he wouldn't ask for a second date, right?


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Oooooooh ... how exciting! Now where's my sledge hammer ... yes, he is into you! Stop analysing and just enjoy it. I love Italian men. Does he have a brother?
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Hahaha ... we could double date if I lived in America lol. It sounds like it went really well. I've dated a few guys with a sense of humour deficiency
That's great!
Ut oh, that's kinda scary, but in a good way lol. Maybe that is a good thing? I texted him this morning and we are supposed to meet tomorrow at 2pm at Bailey's. It's a sports bar/grill type of place. He seems like a nice guy. I enjoy his company.
And on top of that, I've been kind of talking to this other guy and he wants to meet up for coffee one day. And now I'm like, oh crap! I know nothing is serious yet, but now I've got myself wondering if it's ok to be doing this? Meeting up for coffee with one guy and then going on date #2 w/Tony tomorrow for lunch?
Well this is quite interesting. I texted him around noon and asked him if we are still on for today. He replied back saying he was at the doctor w/his little girl. I had to make sure I didn't mistakenly text the wrong person. I didn't know Tony had a daughter, he never told me. He said he doesn't tell everyone about his personal life and to not worry and not take it personally. I asked how old she is and he said she's a year old. I was on myspace and saw he was on there, and thought,...ok,..hmmm. Then he replies back saying he was waiting on the doctor and checking his email/myspace on his phone. I told him I was glad his daughter is ok and he asked me if I wanted to try again tomorrow around same time. I told him I have to see since Comcast is coming out here tomorrow and not sure when they will finish up. I told him it's probably best I not come over today anyway since I'm not in the best of moods and told him he was a good dad - bonus points in my book and left it at that.
Right now I'm about to spit nails I'm so mad. I mean, that's fine you have a daughter, I have nothing against that. But why didn't you tell me? We were supposed to have gone out Sat afternoon, but he texted me saying that his mom called him and said she is cooking dinner for him & his sister. Then texts me back saying that his mom got tickets to the concert that night and that it was a surprise & there'd be no dinner. I thought, ok that's fine. Then he texts me Sunday asking if I'm free today, so we made plans for today, and this happens. My friends think he's a player. What do you all think?
That sounds like so much fun!
Hi Cl-Wishful78,
I have found in my experience that a lot of guys lie about having a child or being married before. They work on the assumption that you won't want to be with them if you know the truth, so they think a little 'white lie' will be ok. I personally don't want to date a man with a child as it's a big issue for me and I don't like people who lie full stop about anything as I am so forthright so it wouldn't wash with me. I know for other people though, it wouldn't be a huge issue.
Um ... who checks myspace on their phone at the doctor's? I don't know if I buy that story either. And the concert? Just gets better and better doesn't it. I don't buy that either. Obviously, he had something better to do. How nice he was able to fit you into his Sunday plans. I would have said I was busy. You can tame a player but not if you play into their game.
It's like this with me ... if I trust someone and my instinct was with them, I trust them. They could back out at the last minute and I wouldn't think anything of it. However, you're already questioning Tony. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt so you can walk away knowing you gave them a fair fighting chance but just be careful that it doesn't hit you in the face. I'm not the type of person who thinks all men are b*stards but this does sound a bit fishy.
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I second that. My friend Anika thinks he lied about having a little girl, I don't know. I mean if he does, that's fine. But why didn't you tell me? I dunno, it's very fishy to me and I almost get the feeling I'm being lied to. Oh sure, he texts me back and asks if I want to come over tomorrow around the same time, but I'm hesitant to NOT text him tomorrow because I don't want to get shot down again. He's the one who asked me to meet up w/him this week.
I think I know now why I quit dating, because I got tired of putting up w/this kind of B.S. I am supposed to meet up w/Michael I hope this wknd. He asked me if I wanted to go for a coffee, so we will see. Right now I'm trying real hard not to take it so personally.
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