I wish it was 1950.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
I wish it was 1950.
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Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:07am
I was never around then, but i've heard the world was safer and the men were different. I watch those movies set in the 50's and men were actually courting women with the best of intentions. ( im sure there were still the occasional bad seeds) They wanted to get married and start families. They took women on dates, besides bars with their buddies, and kissed then goodnight without trying to get an invitation inside. I wish i was there then. Somehow...things just seemed simpler.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:18am
No, I totally get your point and dating is tough for both women and men. But I think that women who think they're using men for sex and are actually benefitting from it are deluding themselves.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:21am
Wow this post has really been twisted into something it was not meant to be! I meant for this to be lighthearted and to not be taken so literal. OBVIOUSLY i didn't mean i wish it was 1950 so women don't have freedom and men cheat and we all turn a blind eye. C'mon. Give men some credit. We may all have much more now than we did then but don't forget the crime rate is also significantly higher. It was normal to sleep with your doors unlocked. Would i do that now? Heck no. I won't even live in a builiding without keyed access. Think about it. Not everything is better.
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:30am
Hehe, sorry. :) I got a little carried away...plus it was midnight or 1am or whatever it was, I was probably deliriously tired. I say that in a later post, I do gte what you're saying about dating and I'm sorry I didn't give you more credit. :)
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Registered: 08-02-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:48am
My cows/pigs/milk/sausages/sheep/wool comment was made tongue-in-cheek :) But you make a good point.
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Registered: 04-25-2004
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:50am

I see what you mean and for me your statement goes beyond dating and marriage. Back then people lived in real communities-- people knew who lived next door to them, you didn't live in a highrise where people barely said hello and hid behind their computer screens... back then, when something bad happened to a neighbor everyone chipped in and helped out, when a boy asked out a girl down the block he was on his best behavior because his mother knew the girl's mother and there was such a thing as embarassing yourself and your family-- something that hardly seems to exist today.

People were accountable for each other and in some regards, was it really such a bad thing? It wasn't a ME culture. A while ago I had to go to the hospital and guess who drove me and helped me out and brought me food. My mom. I'm 31 years old and I had to count on my mom. Imagine if she wasn't there? If my father was dead too? If I had no siblings in the area? Of course I have friends, but they have jobs they need to go to in order to survive. They can't really take off. And only recently did I start talking to my neighbors. What did I learn that day? That if I had no family I have to PAY SOMEONE TO CARE ABOUT ME.

Some will say there's more to life than love and marriage and family. Sure, there's following your dreams, treating yourself well to expensive things and vacations, going to school... but when you're laying in a hospital bed praying you don't have a terminal illness and that your biopsy results are negative, all of that suddenly means squat and you're sure glad you have a family, and maybe even a few good neighbors who give a damn.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:53am

Hey, I'm not going to lie. I'd take some sausage right about now. But given the chance, I'd take the whole stinkin pig!

Plus I also love bacon!

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 11:57am
It's the result of eroding traditional/family values. Today we live in a fast paced, media driven, instant gratification society where it's all about me, me, me all the time.


Edited 8/31/2007 12:13 pm ET by capegirardeau
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Registered: 08-02-2007
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:03pm
Well... I have some in the freezer..and umm..some outside too. Fully thawed.
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 12:17pm
LOL That was priceless. :)
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 2:45pm
I second that! Chivalry was alive and well then, not an unknown concept like it seems to be today.