I wish it was 1950.
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I wish it was 1950.
| Fri, 08-31-2007 - 1:07am |
I was never around then, but i've heard the world was safer and the men were different. I watch those movies set in the 50's and men were actually courting women with the best of intentions. ( im sure there were still the occasional bad seeds) They wanted to get married and start families. They took women on dates, besides bars with their buddies, and kissed then goodnight without trying to get an invitation inside. I wish i was there then. Somehow...things just seemed simpler.

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Edited 8/31/2007 3:12 pm ET by lovinhockey17
Smile,
Deirdre
I get what you mean.
>>In a way the 1950's lacked passion.
Don't confuse order and structure with lack of passion. There was such a thing called family back then because people weren't as self centered and self focused as they are today.
Real passion is shared between a couple married happily for 50 years. Not those in short term romantic flings, especially abusive ones.
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It's far more complex than that.
The economy was such that both parents didn't have to work. Now people are in go-go-go mode just to pay the bills.
People weren't likely to move beyond their home town. Now it's common to move all over the country - even the globe - for job opportunities.
Multi-generational homes were common. Now they are looked down upon.
Going to church EVERY Sunday was expected. Now going to a ballgame is more important.
Expectations of children were different. Used to be a pickup game of stick ball was great. Then neighborhood leagues were a step up. Now kids are expected to play in superleagues so they can get college rides.
The technologies that were supposed to make our lives easier have actually shackled us to being plugged in 24/7.
Humans have always been self-centered - it's part of the core nature of being human. We aren't any more self-focused/self-centered than our predecessors. It's just that our pace and goals have changed.
>>The economy was such that both parents didn't have to work. Now people are in go-go-go mode just to pay the bills.
Afraid that's not true. People today are many many times better off than they were in the 50s or 60s. If they have more bills to pay today, it's simply because their spending habits and expectations have outpaced their ability to afford. Look at the Heritage Foundation's poverty report for a definition of "poverty" in today's world. It's bewildering.
http://www.heritage.org/Research/Welfare/bg1713.cfm
>>People weren't likely to move beyond their home town. Now it's common to move all over the country - even the globe - for job opportunities.
True. Another evidence of improved economic activity and higher overall wealth. People need to be where they are needed and out of where they are not.
>> Multi-generational homes were common. Now they are looked down upon.
Proves my original point.
>> Going to church EVERY Sunday was expected. Now going to a ballgame is more important.
And some more.
>>The technologies that were supposed to make our lives easier have actually shackled us to being plugged in 24/7.
Not sure how that relates to being self centered and self focused.
>>Humans have always been self-centered - it's part of the core nature of being human. We aren't any more self-focused/self-centered than our predecessors. It's just that our pace and goals have changed.
Our pace and goals have changed to focus more of our attention on *ourselves*.
Edited 9/5/2007 1:54 pm ET by capegirardeau
Wait - you want me to take anything from the Heritage Foundation seriously? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA OK, wait, let me catch my breath....ROFLOL
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No, it's evidence of a shift in the ability to get around globally much more easily. It's evidence of a shift in the expectation that one is born, raised and dies in the same town. It's evidence that people are willing to reach out beyond their comfort level.
<<<>> Multi-generational homes were common. Now they are looked down upon.
Proves my original point.>>>
Ummmm....no, it merely demonstrates that the shift in society is more complex than your claim of "me me me". Seriously - would you date a grown woman who still lived at home, and not judge her for living with her parents? We see it all the time here on the boards - He/She still lives at home, what a loser. That attitude isn't about selfishness - it's about the modern expectation that mature children fly from the roost and become self-supporting.
<<<>> Going to church EVERY Sunday was expected. Now going to a ballgame is more important.
And some more. >>>
Not really, but maybe partially. A loss of interest in organized religion is a sign of independence, free thinking and intellectualism. Most Americans consider themselves "spiritual" but not religious. So going to a brick and mortar building to pray is no longer the expectation, but it doesn't mean people aren't celebrating their beliefs in other ways.
<<<>>The technologies that were supposed to make our lives easier have actually shackled us to being plugged in 24/7.
Not sure how that relates to being self centered and self focused.
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My point exactly...that there are more reasons for societal shifts than your simplistic "people are more selfish".
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Then exactly how do you explain that volunteerism and donations are on the rise? That reactive assistance to crises like Katrina and the Tsunami increase?
<<<>>The technologies that were supposed to make our lives easier have actually shackled us to being plugged in 24/7.
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I don't think people change all that much. I think we see more of each other with the new technologies. We like to "watch" car wrecks, not someone carrying grocerioces home for there edelderly neighbor. (-: It creates perception when you only see the bad stuff. What I think "changed" is we ""see"" more of each other than ever before. If someone falls hard enough on one side of the world, we will be watching it in TV 5 minuets later on this side. Society is "adjusting". (-: It will affect friendships, religion, business, even how we fight wars and why. In the past 80 years, a single life time, we have gone from the most basic automobile to the edge of space flight for Disneyland. (-: China was another planet. Now I can be talking to a student practicing English in the next 5 minutes, or vist them in a few hours. The world is "smaller". And things are changing faster yet . . . people and society just have not adjusted to it all yet. People are people in the end. We aren't changing, our toys are.
I still open a door for my date. (-:
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