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| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 8:02pm |
In January, this guy, J, sent me an icebreaker on Yahoo.
| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 8:02pm |
In January, this guy, J, sent me an icebreaker on Yahoo.
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Apparently, y'all missed that last line where I said I knew exactly how I felt about the situation.
I was trying to prove a point: This guy is NOT interested in actually dating, despite some random signals he may be sending out. That seems to be the consensus, which is good.
The only thing he's getting from me is a laugh. Why in the heck would I want to put up with a guy who is too lazy to dial?
Now we just need to take on educating those who think this kind of behavior means interest in a woman.
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I clearly got your point, CL and you're right. I think clearly if this were happening to anyone else, she'd wonder if he were interested too and find a thousand reasons why he is even though he clearly isn't.
Good for you that you left this guy alone.
If I'm one of your sources for that, Hal, then you're not being accurate...I never said *all* women do this, for one thing (we are NOT all the same!), and I have also made it very clear that I don't necessarily lose ALL interest...but my interest level will go down the longer it takes someone to call. It's not an "all or nothing" proposition (interested or not interested)...you can be somewhat interested in someone (the "that" in HJNTIY).
Sheri
"Those of us who have a good head on our shoulders lose interest when it seems as if a guy has. For me, that means if he hasn't called within a couple of days of asking for my number or within 3-5 days after a date."
My lips are sealed
;-)
And? Are you trying to say that's inconsistent with what I wrote this morning? It is not.
Sheri
And here's another quote from a post I wrote to you last week:
"Interest level can change depending on the behavior of the guy in question (in both directions--up and down). It's not static. I can be very interested in someone, but if he does a couple things that bug me...the interest level will go down. It may not *disappear*, but it will go down. If he does things that impress me, OTOH, it'll go up."
No, not what you wrote this morning. In another thread I said that I learn much more from reading about other peoples problems than I do from reading their advice/solutions to mine.
You replied: "If that's what you believe, that's what you believe. None of us is going to be able to convince you that you're wrong, so I won't try (again)..."
Doesn't this imply that all women *do* think the same way?
All (MOST) of the situations I refer to support my way of thinking. Very few (NONE) support what I am told.
No, that is emphatically NOT what I was responding to! I was responding directly to this statement made by you in the post I responded to:
"If she were interested she would be glad that I made contact and would be keen to reply, it's THAT simple."
The point I was trying to make was, you don't know that for sure from her actions, given the context...THAT is what I was trying to say.
I think you know that, though, and you're just messing with me.
Sheri
Uh, no, there's no misunderstanding on *my* part. I can't believe you have the nerve to say that when it is clearly you who is (deliberately or not) misreading and misquoting my posts.
Whatever. I'm done.
Sheri, THAT time I was messing with you.
Sorry..
Edited 4/12/2006 2:23 pm ET by hal_9000
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