Ideas on why some of us are single
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Ideas on why some of us are single
| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 5:55am |
This idea may be far fetched but I think there is some great truth to this. I've been doing a lot of thinking and soul-searching lately and I'm beginning to realize that I'm enjoying taking care of myself for once instead of having to worry about taking care of a boyfriend who has issues and putting everyone else above me and myself last. I think just recently I've put myself first and I feel great about doing that and I'm enjoying being single and "selfish" in a good way. I think that some of us are still single because we still have some unfinished business in our lives and it's not our time yet and we aren't setting out the energy that we are really available and really want a relationship. I guess what I'm realizing recently is that I'm not available for a relationship quite yet because I want to take care of me for a little bit longer and have fun and do the things I love to do. I don't really have the time or energy at this point in time for one. I keep trying to fight it because I want to have children and I'm looking at the whole biological clock thing but not really listening to myself and my inner wants. Since we were talking about luck having a lot to do with finding the right one I also was thinking timing and our "readiness" has a great deal to do with it too. I think we also need to ask ourselves if we have some unfinished business to take care of before we get into a relationship and what that is and maybe just maybe once we take care of the things we need to then that right person will come our way.

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Although I am pursuing some personal interests right now, I can honestly say that I am completely open, available and ready for a serious relationship. I have never been in a dating situation that has interferred with what I need to do so if the right man came along, I know that I could easily multi-task and include him in my life without missing a beat. I honestly want this more than anything right now and the only thing that has kept me single is that the right man just hasn't come along yet.
That, I have no control over.
I do think that's true for some people but not all.
I think that you're just making yourself a priority instead of a relationship, and that's fine.
Biochic, I think that is a great observation and shows some great understanding of yourself. Although this isn't true of everyone, I do think sometimes we say we want something, but there is an underlying energy we're putting out that says "I don't want that." Which is fine, but if you really don't want
I believe all of those same things too and I am truely happy with myself by myself, but I'm at a stage in my life where I'm ready for a serious relationship. I'm ready to share my life with someone and stop living it alone. I want to share my happiness and success with someone.
I think it is a wonderful concept to be happy with yourself first. But then what? It does not keep me from striving for what could be so much more.
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