Ideas on why some of us are single
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Ideas on why some of us are single
| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 5:55am |
This idea may be far fetched but I think there is some great truth to this. I've been doing a lot of thinking and soul-searching lately and I'm beginning to realize that I'm enjoying taking care of myself for once instead of having to worry about taking care of a boyfriend who has issues and putting everyone else above me and myself last. I think just recently I've put myself first and I feel great about doing that and I'm enjoying being single and "selfish" in a good way. I think that some of us are still single because we still have some unfinished business in our lives and it's not our time yet and we aren't setting out the energy that we are really available and really want a relationship. I guess what I'm realizing recently is that I'm not available for a relationship quite yet because I want to take care of me for a little bit longer and have fun and do the things I love to do. I don't really have the time or energy at this point in time for one. I keep trying to fight it because I want to have children and I'm looking at the whole biological clock thing but not really listening to myself and my inner wants. Since we were talking about luck having a lot to do with finding the right one I also was thinking timing and our "readiness" has a great deal to do with it too. I think we also need to ask ourselves if we have some unfinished business to take care of before we get into a relationship and what that is and maybe just maybe once we take care of the things we need to then that right person will come our way.

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I think people are single because they want to...anyone can find anybody to date, but who wants to date just anyone? I recently became single a few months back after a 3 yr relationship; I wanted to be single because I was tired. Tired of not being the priority; don't get me wrong, my ex wanted to get married, but I think a lot of people settle now-a-days and eventually divorce. It's exciting to be single, but it's scary not knowing about the future. If you'll get married, if you'll have children...we can have it all, but finding that "guy" isn't easy. I don't look for the "wrong" type of guy, but that's what I find. I dated lawyers, teachers, blue-collar men (in which I ended the relationships)....at first, I thought it was me, but turns out it's actually them! I learned that you need to study a guy when you date them in the first few weeks. Check out signs and if you have a feeling he's not the one, end it. The things I've learned is never date a guy who doesn't give you their home number, never had a serious relationship before you (unless you want to stick it out and go through the ups and downs; they sometimes tend to be selfish), has issues "commiting", very flirty, doesn't call often (every other day is good), goes out every weekend and drinks a lot... and last but not least, if you think he may be gay...good chances he is!!
It's exciting to be single and they'll be times when you're lonely...but remember, when you do find that someone, there will be this small part of you that misses being single...so enjoy it while ya can! 'Cause when it happens, it'll be when you least expect it! Good luck, everyone!
Interesting. I'm actually attracted to a wider range of men now than I was when I was younger (when I pretty much was only interested in blonde, blue-eyed men with sharp features).
Of course, there are certainly men I'm *more* attracted to than others, but I find a pretty wide range of men attractive enough to date. Attraction isn't really the issue for me in dating...it's finding someone with whom I'm compatible that's much harder.
Sheri
I'm kinda like you, Sheri, and kinda like riskit.
So true, riskitgirl. I think we are attracted to the person as a whole -- or not. And I agree on Tom Cruise, LOL. He's become downright scary ... and a lot less attractive, IMO.
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